As Chinese, we can say without modesty that the development of the mainland in terms of etiquette and culture has been at the forefront of the world since ancient times. And now, too, in the impression of International friends on China, the state of etiquette must be part of it. Among the Confucian education and the education of gentlemen in ancient times on the mainland, helping others is the most common one.
From an early age, Chinese children are taught to help others when they are in difficulty. This kind of behavior is not only to do good deeds and accumulate virtues, but also to cultivate one's own good character of charity and charity. Chinese character trait is that he is kind by nature and does not allow others to suffer. Therefore, in daily life, as long as the neighbors have needs and they are within their own reach, then under normal circumstances, anyone will not hesitate to help others.
But our ancestors also set many rules for this: helping people is not unconditional, or it is not without restrictions. Since ancient times, the old ancestors have warned future generations that there are four things, if others need help, if they want to borrow from their own homes, they cannot be borrowed, and if they borrow these four things, they may bring very bad luck to the family and lead to the destruction of the family. Let's take a look at these four things today.
One does not lend out the pot of medicine
With the advancement of medical technology and the reform of science and technology, the main medical methods currently used in the world are Chinese medicine and Western medicine. If you want to talk about the historical origin, then Chinese medicine must be unyielding, Chinese medicine has thousands of years of cultural history, although there are a variety of Western pharmacies everywhere in the society, but for some difficult diseases or Chinese medicine to slowly regulate.
This is especially true for the ancients, who did not have such frequent exchanges with the outside world as they do now, and there is no way to compare with Western medical technology and China, and our old ancestors often took various herbs.
In addition to the external herbs, in most cases, the prescription given by the doctor is based on the doctor's prescription, and then the pharmacist is asked to grab the dried Chinese herbs to the patient according to different proportions, and the patient will take the medicine pot to fry the medicine after returning home.
Not only in ancient times, but also in many rural areas in modern times, they still use medicinal pots to fry medicine. Because rural areas do not have complete Chinese medicine processing facilities like the traditional Chinese medicine shops in the city, most of them are self-made and decoct their own medicines. This inevitably happens when some people don't have a pot of medicine at home. There is no way but to borrow from others.
However, the ancestors have long been advised that the medicine pot must not be lent. Because if you lend the medicine pot in your own home to others, then when others use it up and return it, it is likely that they will bring the pain and bad luck that exist in their home to their own home, which will bring endless pain and bad luck to their families.
Second, do not lend the knife
And the second thing that our ancestors warned us not to lend to others is the various knives in the house. Under normal circumstances, the knife specifically referred to in this taboo is the pig killing knife, but according to the advice of the ancestors, it does not only refer to the pig killing knife, in fact, all the knives in the family that can cause life danger to people or animals cannot be borrowed.
This taboo ancient also has a history related to it, it is said that there are two families with a particularly good relationship, one day the neighbor ran to the family's home, came to borrow their family's pig-killing knife, said that they went back to cut meat, the family did not think much, they lent out the pig-killing knife. As a result, the next morning, the county people came to arrest the family's husband and said that he had killed someone.
The husband was groggy and went to the big prison, and he didn't expect to wake up as a murderer. It turned out that when he lent the pig-killing knife to the neighbor, the neighbor had a conflict with someone else on the way home, and happened to be holding a pig-killing knife in his hand, and accidentally hacked the other person to death. When the officials searched for the murderer according to the evidence, they found the owner of the knife according to various clues by questioning the people around them.
Whether the story is true or not, all the sharp knives in the house really cannot be borrowed. It's like if you lend your car to someone else and someone else drives out and there's a traffic accident, then the traffic cop is definitely looking for the owner himself, and the reason is the same.
Three do not lend out the cane stick
The third thing that cannot be lent to others is the crutch in the family. In ancient times, people's habits of using crutches were particularly numerous, and they could be roughly divided into two situations.
The first is that if there are elderly people or people with inconvenient legs and feet, the family will be equipped with a crutch similar to their height. Another situation is that dignitaries and nobles may use some crutches as ornaments to symbolize their identity and status. For example, when we watch the TV series "Yang Jiajun", She Taijun's weapon is his own crutch.
In fact, the crutch originally did not say whether it could be lent this custom, but because in ancient times, the crutch may represent a person's identity and status, just like meeting the emperor's jade seal, just like meeting the emperor himself. In ancient times, the dignitaries and nobles were also afraid that others would use their own relics to do something wrong, so things that represented rights such as crutches were not lent, and slowly evolved into this folk custom.
Four do not lend out cribs
The fourth thing we want to introduce to you today that cannot be lent is almost every family. If there is no one now, there will definitely be one in the future, and that is the crib.
This has to start from the traditional social ideology of the ancient mainland. We all know that the ancient working people paid more attention to the continuation of incense than modern people, and many modern people are Dink families, that is, husband and wife do not consider having children after marriage. Because they will feel that the child will break the quiet two-person world of two people and may become a burden.
But the ancients did not think so, they felt that the more children were born, the better, even if the family is very poor, then people will not be because the family can not afford to raise children and not have children, but the poorer people have more and more children in the family.
And the child-rearing facility of the crib has long existed in ancient times. But people will refuse to lend their children's cribs to others, because everyone thinks that if they lend their cribs to others, then the incense in their own homes will be cut off, and the incense in their own homes will continue to other people's homes. This is very bad for the reproduction of the family.
epilogue
Although our way of life is now based on modern science, from the above four things, in addition to the crib has feudal superstitious information in it, the other three things we still need to pay special attention to, after all, they are very logical.
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