When the child wants to talk to the parents, it means that the child has uncomfortable, unsatisfactory places, or problems that he cannot solve, etc., thus losing his psychological balance. At this time, if parents can listen to the child's heart, the child can say his psychological state and adjust his mood little by little.
If the child speaks of loneliness in his heart, then he will get rid of loneliness; when he is very angry, he can calm down by saying how he feels. At this time, the child does not want to solve the problem or find the answer, but to eliminate the knot that he cannot untie.
I'm afraid that's what adults think the same way, right? Adults just want to make each other understand their anger, unhappiness, loneliness and sadness through dialogue, so many times they just want to complain. It just doesn't change anything, it just adds to the unhappiness.
Parents are always eager to educate their children, hope to become a dragon, and often ignore their children's feelings. When the child expresses fear and loneliness, the parents do not try to understand the child's mood and feelings, but are eager to tell the child the solution to the problem. In this way, the child may be forced to do what his parents say, but his inner feelings are not released at all, and he may resent his parents for ignoring him.
As parents who want to prevent the child's emotions from happening, parents should listen to the child's expression, lower their identity to try to communicate, and express their understanding of the child. In order to better alleviate the child's emotions and alleviate the child's hostility.
Parents should use concise words to show the child that "you" are listening intently to what the child says, and the child will expound his thoughts in his heart without any defense, which is a release of the mind for the child and a way for parents to understand the child's mental and physical health.
If parents want to teach their children to grow up and be human, they must first master a very wide range of knowledge as reserves, and there are many places that need to be made up and corrected, and people say that through educating children, it is also the process of parents' self-improvement and growth. If parents cannot set an example and listen well to their children's ideas and expressions, then they must improve the existing environment and state through step-by-step learning and efforts.
Therefore, listening is the most important, listening is the basic, and communication is the bridge, so that we can understand each other, promote each other and solve each other's harmonious relationship and emotional problems.