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No matter how close a lover is, it is inevitable to experience the day of separation, and no matter how affectionate the lover, he cannot resist the cruelty and ruthlessness of death. When people get old, their sense of control over life will also decrease, especially when death comes, and even the strongest people will find it difficult to resist the painful separation.
Aunt Liu is sixty years old this year, and her husband has long since left the world due to physical reasons. The past year was the darkest moment in Aunt Liu's life, and it was also a cruel past that she could not calmly mention.
After a long period of self-consolation and acceptance, Aunt Liu is now finally able to face life again.
Looking back at that gray memory, she summed up three ways to make herself strong, real and useful.
One: Refuse to indulge in grief
From youth to twilight, the lovers who have accompanied you all your life suddenly passed away, which is indeed a sigh, a lot of sweet fragments, even if you don't deliberately think about it, the past will climb up little by little and appear in front of your eyes.
In the face of such a major life change, no one will be indifferent, but the day still has to continue to live, if you blindly indulge in sadness, the result can only be more painful, mixed life and their own defeat.
Aunt Liu said that in the first six months, she really felt that the sky had collapsed.
She closed the door to guests, refused all kind care and comfort, locked herself in the room, looked at the photos taken with her husband in the past and sentimental, and wondered why life had to go through such a big storm.
Let the memories invade and hit yourself to the point of withering, and the time of that half year was the wound of Aunt Liu's life.
Now that a year has passed, Aunt Liu has gradually come out, and she found that in fact, the best way to combat sadness is to forget it, ignore it, bravely embrace a new life, let small things fill the gaps in daily life, and keep yourself busy. In this way, there is no time to ignore the sad emotions, and the days are no longer sad.
Two: Refuse to dwell in the past
The death of a lover is more hurtful than emotional discord, divorce, and breakup. Love can not be, people at least have a hope, but when they love very much, they are forced to accept life and death, but they can only let fate shoot at themselves mercilessly.
Although life still goes on, when you see your lover stay in the past, your heart will inevitably be blocked with huge stones, making it difficult for you to move forward, and you are not willing to move forward.
Some people always think that staying in the past is a sign of affection, but when faced with the tribulations that life gives, the best response is always to grit your teeth and move forward. As Aunt Liu said, leaving the best love in the most beautiful memories may also be eternal in a sense.
Although the lover is no longer around, this does not affect a person to continue to move forward, sometimes as long as you take a brave step, the gears of life will turn peacefully again.
Three: Refuse to live a perfunctory life
Aunt Liu said that at first, it was difficult for her to face life positively, and even badly thought about why she could not go with him. After drilling into the tip of the bull's horn, everything in life becomes boring.
For a long time, she was perfunctory, not eating three meals a day on time, refusing all social activities, and allowing herself to sink.
The result of the perfunctory life was that Aunt Liu soon entered the hospital. Because of malnutrition and poor mood, her body collapsed. But during the time she was hospitalized, she suddenly understood a lot.
Hospitals are staging the drama of life and death every day, and compared with many people who want to continue to live, their own behavior of abusing their lives is undoubtedly a mistake. It was only when she lay in her hospital bed that she finally understood that living in good health was such a luxury.
Everyone comes to earth once, and after being called by God, they always have to embark on the way home. When that special day has not yet come, how to spend the rest of your life is actually a problem that everyone has to face. Life is short, only living well in the present moment is to live up to life, only positive face is the most valuable choice to walk in the world.
Today's Aunt Liu has a positive attitude and is optimistic. In her own words, only by living well, the other half will be at ease. Since God let herself go later, she must cherish the days of life even more, and together with her husband's half happiness, she must also hug and feel together.
We often say that the Helpers help themselves.
In the face of the blow of fate, only those who actively seek self-help will be handed over by God. In the face of the unknown tomorrow and the unavoidable pain, looking at it correctly and refusing to sink is the most correct choice for being born as a human being.
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