In gender relations, there are very unspoken rules. Girls are sometimes cheated by scumbags, or suffer from feelings, in fact, because they have not understood these unspoken rules
1. The author Zhang Ailing once said that the road to a woman's heart is the vagina. Once in a relationship, women are prone to the idea of relying on men and become ill. The man is the opposite, and the passion, gifts, and all kinds of sweet words he pursues you is in large part to get you.
When the relationship actually happens, he will become calm instead. Start thinking about your value and the value you bring to him.
You become more and more enthusiastic, but he begins to grow cold, and you keep questioning him, not knowing that this is just their norm.
A good response is, what to do, don't rely too much on boys, otherwise it will only backfire.
2, after talking about love a few times, you will find out. Love is the spice of life, not a necessity of life. Fantasy love does not exist.
The fact that I love you when I say it only means that I love you now. It doesn't mean you'll love you all your life. Time brings a lot of things, and it will make a lot of things disappear.
Therefore, girls should understand earlier the truth that I am fortunate and lose my life. Don't be too demanding, and don't take love as the only thing in life.
3. The psychology of boys and girls in their twenties is very different.
Girls at this age have unrealistic fantasies about love. I hope that there is a person who firmly chooses himself, loves himself, and grows old with himself.
Expect a responsible man to become your lifelong reliance.
But boys in their twenties are not mature, and they don't know how to love. This is partly due to the difference in education between men and women.
For girls, the words I have heard since I was a child are that it is good to get married to a good family in the future.
For boys, the words heard from childhood are that men should have their own careers.
Subtly, girls want to get love at an age, boys actually do not have this string in their hearts.
4, love begins with hormones, or some routine. But what determines whether two people can last long is character and character.
A boyfriend with good character thinks of solving rather than abandoning when he encounters difficulties. After the novelty disappears, he will also try something new with you, rather than cheating on the leg. Because his moral cultivation did not allow him to do so.
5, no matter how far the feelings are, how deep the love is. You all need to leave yourself a way back. It's not distrust of feelings, it's about being responsible for yourself. Because you don't know which one comes first, the accident or tomorrow.
If life is only like the first sight, what autumn wind and sorrow paint fan. Waiting for idle changes is the old people's hearts, but the old people's hearts are changeable.
Under the change of people's hearts, having a career of their own and having a skill that can sustain their livelihood can ensure that they can temporarily withdraw from the outside world.
6. All routines and emotional skills on the market are not suitable for scumbags.
Both are people who play with feelings. Your skill and tears cannot keep such a person. Life is limited, don't waste time and energy on people and things that are not worth it.
The way to distinguish a scumbag is to stretch the long line and be decisive.
Pull the long line, the general scumbag for a long time does not get the desired result will be difficult to retreat. You must also be bold enough in the face of such a person. in order to avoid unnecessary harm.
7, no matter when, you must put your love yourself first.
Especially at the end of the relationship, do not plead without dignity, let alone exchange your health and safety for his not leaving.
Let the man who wants to leave let him go, and don't try to keep him. People who understand the principle of good gathering and dispersion know how to love rationally from the beginning, rather than the love of losing themselves.
8, good love is a win-win situation, not to hurt each other.
Often people separate love and interests, thinking that interests are black, and love is the purest white. But the lotus flowers that come out of the mud and are not stained are, in the final analysis, also grow up by relying on the nutrients of the silt. Why praise the lotus flower and demean the mud.
The interests between the two are like a pot of silt, and the better they are combined, the more nutrient-rich the silt. Under the win-win situation, a white flower is bred and a period of pink lotus fruit is born.
Instead of holding a rootless flower and praising it as white, because without a foundation, the flower will wither. It will never turn out.