Another domestic high-quality TV series appeared, with a Douban score of 8.1 points.
Yes, it is this "Dear Child" starring Qin Hao and Ren Suxi, adapted from Wang Xiaoshuai's movie "Left and Right".
When you open the bullet screen, you will find that many people's evaluations are like this: "It can't be more real", "This is my life", "Exactly the same as when I was confinement".
However, it is precisely such a TV series that is considered real by the audience to be criticized by the People's Daily, using an article titled "Realistic Theme Works "Selling Anxiety" should be stopped in moderation", accusing the drama of deliberately amplifying anxiety and ignoring beauty.
But is "Dear Little Kid" really selling anxiety?
I chased 13 episodes in one go, but I didn't think the show was deliberately selling anxiety, but just showing the real anxiety in real life.
If you think this show makes people feel anxious, it's because life is full of anxiety. Even if we choose to ignore it, the problem remains.
Few domestic dramas can make the chicken and dog fragments during confinement so comprehensive and extremely real.
Anxiety before the birth of a child
The first act of the play is when Fang Yinuo, who is in the third trimester, returns home from work and when he removes his makeup, he notices the pregnancy spots on his face.
Then she took off her coat and looked at the big belly in the mirror, her figure was out of shape, and there was a clear black line on her abdomen.
After pregnancy, you will face a series of physical changes, which is difficult for any girl who loves beauty to accept.
On the one hand, it is the joy of welcoming a new life, but on the other hand, there is helplessness and inferiority to "the disappearance of beauty".
Xiao Lu, a novice father played by Qin Hao, showed even more anxiety.
You can see it from a simple bowl of noodles.
He packed a ramen for his wife, but before he got home, he had already eaten a ramen with chili peppers.
After returning home, he also pretended not to eat, and accompanied Fang Yinuo to eat another noodle without peppers.
I think about when my wife was pregnant, I would occasionally sneak out and eat an ice cream just not to arouse her gluttony.
The family is careful, just so that new life can be born safely.
Anxiety when in the hospital
The most sinful way of procreation is vaginal birth, the more guilty way is caesarean section, and the way of special suffering is circumferential caesarean section.
Many people think about which way to choose in advance, but in the end they have to change their minds temporarily.
My wife originally wanted to have a normal birth, but because of her own pain sensitivity, after opening two fingers, she had to switch to a caesarean section.
For a caesarean section, the birth of a child is not the end of the pain, but the beginning of more pain.
It is necessary to press a heavy object on the knife edge of the lower abdomen, and to press the lower abdomen many times to discharge lochia, and even the first time after childbirth, the first bowel movement, etc., all of which test the tolerance of human beings to pain.
The most anxious thing for pregnant women is not only physical pain, but also mental pain.
"Dear Little Child" has already shown this aspect, after the birth of a child, the new mother needs the help of someone else to deal with some unspeakable filth.
For any "little fairy", showing this side to her lover is under great psychological pressure. Any slight dislike of her husband at this time will leave her with indelible harm.
The anxiety of the sister-in-law's choice
Why are confinement centers and confinement sisters-in-law so popular nowadays?
Because they can help women to sit in confinement safely, the care of newborns is more scientific and professional, and the meals given to women will be nutritionally balanced.
The most important point is to avoid conflicts between new parents and older generations due to different concepts.
However, confinement centers are too expensive, and the cost of tens of thousands of dollars is not a small amount for ordinary families.
Therefore, more ordinary families will choose to hire a sister-in-law, and Fang Yinuo is also this choice.
The moon sister-in-law market is huge, but the quality of the moon sister-in-law is uneven, and the only way to meet a good moon sister-in-law can only rely on luck.
Generally, it is necessary to book two or three months in advance, and for some sisters-in-law with excellent reputation, it is necessary to book at least half a year in advance.
Fang Yinuo's sister-in-law Jinjie was also screened heavily, and in the end she was still unreliable, and even walked away.
Anxiety about the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-
I believe that no complete family will think that the mother-in-law relationship is simple.
How to avoid contradictions between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law? The optimal solution is to live separately.
However, for ordinary office workers, after the sister-in-law leaves, who will take care of the children? New moms are certainly not up to the task themselves, so there are very few answers to choose from.
The man's parents, or the woman's parents.
The vast majority will choose the man's parents, which has caused a situation in which the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has to be faced and coordinated.
Do you use diapers or diapers? Can baby clothes be washed with adult clothes?
What seems to be the contradiction between the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law is actually a collision of the concepts of the two generations.
Fang Yinuo asked the mother-in-law to strictly record the time when the child drank water and defecated, and many viewers complained that it was "too much" and "this is too anxious".
But they don't know that in reality, new mothers will even rip open every poop of their children and make records to determine whether there are digestive problems.
"Dear Child" is not selling anxiety, but is really showing anxiety.
Let young parents who think having a child is an easy task to think about whether their body and mind are ready for a new life.
No matter when it comes, eugenics and eugenics should be the same principle that we adhere to.
It is the duty of literary and art workers to crush real life and lay out the truth of happiness or cruelty instead of hiding it.
It's better for unprepared couples to back off before they get pregnant than to be reluctant to raise a child after they're born.
Every detail of "Dear Child" is derived from life, and it is truly not extreme, not exaggerated, not excessive.
That's why it resonates with the whole people.