Every time I take my baby out, what am I most afraid of?
"I don't care, I don't care, I'm going to buy it!" "You're a bad mother, whining
"I'm afraid that when I see everything, I want to buy it, see what I like, especially toys and snacks, and when I see it, I can't walk, and I grab it and run." Let him put it back, and he began to cry and make a lot of noise, refusing to let go! One cry and two troubles have no effect, immediately upgrade three rolls, instantly gather the attention of the whole audience! ”
Every time I encounter something like this, I really get angry and blush! The whole audience stared at me, pointing and saying that my baby was disobedient, saying that I would not teach children...
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However, there are already a lot of toys at home, boxes of building blocks, toy dolls have no place to put, cars are everywhere, and there are all kinds of IP toys, each set, all kinds of imitation toys, the area occupies a large place... Don't buy? In that scenario, the child's tears are really heart-wrenching (annoying); bought? I'm afraid that the child will not cherish it if he plays the same for a while, and if he buys it, the old woman really can't swallow this breath!
In fact, to deal with such a situation, it also requires mothers to have more skills and patience. Children always want to buy, buy and buy, parents can try the following 3 tricks to guide correctly.
The first trick: do not rudely deny
Many parents face the needs of their children and directly say "don't buy, no money, hurry up!" "If you don't leave, I won't want you, leave you here!"
It is not enough to rudely snatch the toys from the child's hand, and the child is forcibly carried away like a chicken. Not only is this useless, it can also make the child uneasy or overly obsessed with an object. Moreover, for children under the age of 3, they do not understand the process of buying and selling, and they do not understand the behavior of money and purchase.
How to do it: Try to set rules for your child before going out, communicate with your child in a different way of expression, and give your child the right to choose. For example, use the sentence "If you don't..., don't..." and replace it with a sentence such as "If you don't obey, I won't buy you a toy"; when the child violates the agreement, do not force him to forbid his practices, or ask him to do it, but give him his own choice. For example, before going out, set a rule not to go out this time do not buy toys, if you abide by the agreement, you can continue to visit the mall, if you continue to cry, then stop shopping and go home.
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Trick 2: Make a wish list
So many toys, confirmed eyes, everything is wanted?
If you buy everything, your home will become a toy park. Moreover, after a long time, some children will feel that "it doesn't matter if you lose it anyway, you can buy it for me", and naturally they will not know how to cherish it.
How to do it: The role of rules is also evident here. For example, communicate well before going out, go out 5 times, buy a toy once, and only buy one. The last time you go out to buy a toy, you can only stay in the fifth time to go out and buy it; or make a list of toys you want to buy, and list the price, tell the child the price range of the toy this time, give the decision to the child, and respect the child's choice.
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Trick three: guide you to choose what you want most
The wish list is laid out, and every toy wants to buy. There are already a lot of the same money at home, or do you want to continue to buy?
How to do it: The smart mother will communicate well with the child, how much money the mother has to buy for the baby every month (necessary toys), and give the baby a small amount of money every week, so that he can use the money to buy the toys he wants.
After teaching the child to make a wish list, put all the toys or food wishes in it, and corresponding to the price, in this process, the child will know how to achieve the wish, how to need money. And with so many wishes, and not enough money, you can only continue to save money, or choose what you want most. This will guide the child to put limited money on the most useful things.
Smart moms, have you all learned?