The child is a little naughty, and at first the parents may think that there is nothing wrong with this, but it has become the fun of the whole family after tea and dinner. But as children grow older, parents will find that excessively naughty behavior can always make people exhausted. Especially when the teacher tells himself, "Your child is very smart, just don't spend his mind on learning." ”
On April 14, a bear child in Tongling, Anhui Province, even used Sun Tzu's art of war after arguing with his family. He first ran away from home, then threw his clothes into the river, pretending that he had jumped into the river. After the firefighters recovered fruitlessly, they found him hiding in the vegetable field.
After the video was posted online, it attracted a lot of attention. Netizens couldn't help but ridicule: "Concealing the sky and crossing the sea, the golden cicada shed its shell... This kid even used the art of war. "Any move you make will make the adults collapse." "It's very clever, I learned thirty-six counts at such a young age." "At a young age, I will turn the tiger away from the mountain." "What a genius, when Caught out of the vegetable patch, he managed to make me laugh."
Over the years, bear children have run away from home, fights, scraping cars, and destroying public property. So for this part of the small and intelligent bear children, how should parents treat it? Xi Xi's mother thinks these points are very important!
(1) The bottom line of parents is very important.
One of the neighbors in the same building as us always impressed with a child with a lot of profanity. The first time I met him was when I took my daughter to the elementary school to register, and his mother happened to take him to the school to submit the enrollment information.
Just out of the door of the community, he met his kindergarten classmates, others smiled and greeted him, but he kicked others' knees, and did not forget to make up a dirty word. His operation really stunned the parents of the other party, while his mother looked accustomed to it and did not feel that it was inappropriate.
Later, on the way to and from school to pick up his daughter, he often took an elevator with him, and every time he opened his mouth, he was always mixed with extremely rich insults. Once, as soon as he got on the elevator, he got into a fight with the little boy next to him, and in the quiet environment, the other party seemed to realize that he should not fight, and he still did not hesitate to provoke, scolding ugly dirty words over and over again.
The neighbors in the elevator couldn't help but look at him twice, and when they reached the tenth floor, his father, who was standing in the position near the elevator, called him, and the father and son chatted casually. And during the whole process, the father did not have any consciousness to stop it after hearing his son's foul language.
A first-grade child, at most seven years old, what kind of family environment has created his "export dirty"? It's incredible to think about. Parents are important leaders on the road of children's lives, if we do not have a bottom line, then how can children know how to restrain their words and deeds?
(2) Say less provocative words.
The friend's family has two children, the son is in the second grade, the daughter is in the first grade, and both children have one common characteristic - impoliteness. On weekdays, when they meet relatives or uncles and aunts they know, children never take the initiative to say hello. Even on their birthdays, relatives and elders buy them birthday presents, and they don't say thank you, as if everything was given to them by others.
In fact, his parents have long realized that such behavior is wrong, but they have not taken the correct way to educate the child, but have coerced the child again and again: "Hurry up and thank the aunt, don't thank the aunt for seeing me go back and not clean up after you." However, the more they were coerced and seduced, the more the two children resented the fact that they were greeting people.
Many parents also like to say: "If you have a conflict with your classmates, you will get me out of this home!" "How?" Wasn't it enough yesterday? Do you still want to eat another meal of bamboo shoot stir-fried meat today? "You dare not listen to me, don't you?" I don't beat you today, I'm sorry for you! ”
The more the child feels that he is provoked, the more serious the child's rebellious psychology will be. And if we can continue to keep our children doing well through encouragement and other means, in fact, children are willing to spend time and energy to change their shortcomings.
(3) Don't make excuses for your child's mistakes.
"He is still young, and when he grows up, he will naturally understand things!" "What are you roaring?" Wasn't you the same mischievous as a kid? "Who didn't make a little mischievous thing when they were kids?" Why should I bother with a little kid! "It must be someone else's fault, so my kids won't do such things."
When children make mistakes, there are always some parents who like to make excuses for their children, afraid that their children will bear the corresponding punishment. Especially in families that live with the elderly, children are more likely to be accustomed to lawlessness. When children enjoy the protection of everyone, their behavior will be more advanced, and eventually they will even go astray for their own wrong behavior. By then, it may be too late for parents to repent.
It is true that it is common for children to make mistakes as they grow up, but the point is that as parents we should teach our children how to correct them. There is a saying that "do not do what is good and small, and do not do it with evil." "You may think that this two indulgences will not have a serious impact on the child, but when this indulgence is accumulated, the child's behavior may be difficult to correct."
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There are no natural bear children, and the breeding of every bear child is seriously affected by its family environment and family education. It is hoped that all parents will be able to lead by example while giving their children a more correct education.