Learning musical instruments is indeed very hard, very much need parental support and encouragement, grateful for every parent to learn the baby to pay and care, sometimes if there is no parent "forced" can go all the way to the children are very few!
Growing up, children and parents enjoy elegant concerts, and children ask, "Why didn't I learn an instrument when I was a kid?" ”
The parent replied: "I let you learn, but you are tired and did not stick to it."
Child: "But I was still young, and I didn't understand anything?" ”
1, children do not love to practice is inevitable, not accidental;
2, cultivate interest is the responsibility of adults, not the nature of children;
3. The child needs sparring, not accompaniment;
4, the child is looking forward to encouragement, not comparison;
5. When accompanying the class, parents are auditors and learners, not teaching assistants;
6. The examination is an episode, not the purpose;
7. The purpose of learning music is that children can be friends with music throughout their lives.
Professor Chen Min, a First-class Chinese pianist known as a "piano prodigy" and a member of the Expert Committee of the Chinese Musicians Association, mentioned in an interview that 20% of the students study art are in teachers, 20% are in students, and 60% are in parents!
Learning art, self-effort, good teacher is important, but in the end to help children become talented is the parents, learning piano is also the same!
This parent should educate the child from an early age
No matter what you have to persevere, many parents say that I let my children learn art just to let their children play, and I don't want him to become famous and famous all over the world, so when children don't want to continue to learn, parents will also say that if they don't want to learn, they don't want to learn, and they don't want to be musicians in the future. So the child is "reasonable" halfway abandoned. Does such a child have to experience a playful life, or does he give up and withdraw when something happens? When the children grow up, will they complain that the parents did not force them to continue and tell them to insist? Since he has chosen to study art, parents should encourage, guide, and have a firm and gentle attitude to tell him to insist on learning. The children of "good talking" parents will eventually achieve nothing, and it is the nature of every child to be inattentive and three minutes of heat, but no matter what you learn, you will insist on it.
Smart parents will never let their children learn in the name of love to "fish for three days and dry the net for two days". Romain Rolland said: The most terrible enemy is the lack of strong faith. If parents don't help their children shape such beliefs from an early age, who can help them when they grow up?
Respecting a child is not the same as obeying a child
I don't know when Chinese parents have become more and more "respectful" of their children, often shouting slogans of "love and freedom" for their children, demanding dialogue with their children on an equal footing, but many times they are overcorrected and too late. Therefore, when the child is interested in dance, calligraphy, art, etc., the parents do not say a word and sign up for the class first, but the child is impatient after learning for a period of time and wants to give up, the parents follow the child's decision, saying that they listen to the child and give him freedom.
As everyone knows, this is parents "lazy" under the guise of "loving children". What seems to be respect for the child is actually a laissez-faire for the child, which is a manifestation of the extreme irresponsibility of the parents.
You know, any learning process will inevitably go through a boring and tedious stage, at this time parents do not "force" the child, let the child "do not want to learn not to learn", then the child's learning can only stay in the stage of shallow taste, east to learn from the west, never experience the fun of deep learning, forming a vicious circle. Over time, children can only learn nothing and cannot do anything.
Parents should not be paralyzed by the so-called "happy education" without moving, and feel that forcing children to learn a specialty is to stifle the child's playful nature, respect the child≠ obey the child, the child will be willful, but the adult can not give up the responsibility of supervision.
Good parents should help their children to try their best to insist on one thing, rather than accompanying him to give up at will. Learning requires hard work, endure loneliness and boredom, know how to learn to control their desires and emotions, and know how to learn to persevere.
Be the guide for your child
If you don't want your child to grow up and regret it, parents must take responsibility, walk in front, and become the guide for their children. Sometimes, parents just want to "force" their children. If parents force their children to learn what they don't want to learn, it is the parents who do not do it properly; if the parents force their children to do what he has chosen, it is the responsibility of the parents, and educate the children not to give up halfway.
No matter what things insist on will have an effect, there will be a sense of achievement, there will be a sense of achievement will persist, over time, in order to develop good habits, to let children understand: today does not suffer hardships will suffer in the future, today does not work hard will work hard for a lifetime.
A teacher engaged in music education said about teaching experience that the faster the child, the higher the degree of cooperation between his parents and teachers. During the class, the homework of the bullet is assigned home to practice a song that is not bad, and the key points to be changed are all carefully completed, unless special circumstances rarely take leave. "I never complain, I don't get bored. I do things very seriously because I want to infect him with what is serious. From the beginning of the child's learning, to the later participation in the art exam training back and forth, no matter the wind and rain, we have never missed the class. A parent of a music student put it this way.
Education is the result of many factors, they do not care, the family lacks a musical atmosphere, and even the best teachers cannot save it. The road to learning art is bumpy, the growth of children needs the careful guidance of parents, and the words and deeds of parents are also subtly influencing children. Don't give up lightly, your child will definitely thank you for not giving up when you grow up.