Filial piety is the well-being of parents. In order to raise a child, parents invest a lot of time and energy, and naturally hope to be rewarded and raise an obedient and filial child.
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So how can we know if a child will have filial piety when he grows up? The old man said, "Three years old to see the big, seven years old to see the old", from a young age can see how the child will be in the future, is this true?
"Two thumbs long, don't hurt Daddy"
Xiao Ke recently encountered a troublesome thing:
As a novice mother, she gave birth to a "little princess", and it was the time of rejoicing, sharing this good news with friends everywhere, and she also exuded the aura of maternal love.
Some time ago, the mother-in-law was worried that Xiao Ke did not have the experience of bringing a baby for the first time, so she offered to help take care of her son's daughter-in-law's family in the past, and everyone was very happy in itself, thinking that this was a matter of great joy for everyone.
But did not think, the day before yesterday when the mother-in-law bathed the baby, looking at the baby's toes, suddenly came a sentence "This child may not hurt the father and mother oh ~ " On the side of the preparation of the baby's clothes, the little ke was suddenly unhappy, so he theorized with the mother-in-law.
As a result, the mother-in-law came again: "You see that the second thumb of the little chick is relatively long, and she can't eat any hardships in the future, her life is not good, where will you still think of your father and mother?"
Xiao Ke was angry after listening, stopped the mother-in-law's "feudal remarks" in time, and bluntly said that similar words were not willing to listen to the second time, the mother-in-law may feel that she said wrong, while apologizing to her daughter-in-law, while bathing her granddaughter.
Although Xiao Ke also knew that what her mother-in-law said was actually feudal remarks, she was still very uncomfortable in her heart.
Why does the old man say that the child is "two thumbs long, not hurting the father"?
Asked a part of the people to know, it turns out that they said this has two meanings:
One is: there is a saying among the older generation that "rich or rich first look at the feet", in their view, the child's toe form hides their future growth trend, and the "two toes long" children, mostly considered "rebellious", will make parents worry a lot, and grow up is not too filial piety;
The other is: the "two thumbs" here is not literal, that is, it refers to the second toe of the human body, but refers to the second eldest child in the family, in the past multi-child families, the second "oppressed by the boss, there are old and young to take care of", but also easy to be ignored by the family, blame, etc., so it leads to their resentment, and they are unwilling to be filial to their parents when they grow up.
In fact, the explanation of the second point is slightly acceptable, and the first is purely feudal superstition.
Therefore, the developmental form of the child's toes cannot be related to her future life trend or personality development, she is actually closely related to congenital genetics. What kind of foot type the parent is, it is likely to be passed on to the child.
In addition, as long as it does not affect health, in fact, no matter what kind of foot shape can be, as parents, we do not have to worry too much. As for whether the child is filial piety in the future, in fact, it is mostly related to the parents' education methods from an early age.
These kinds of education methods of parents are difficult to raise "filial piety" children
1. Parents are eccentric
This situation is most likely in families with many children. And the second eldest in the family, it is indeed easier to be ignored, as mentioned above, the boss of the family is often regarded as a "top pillar", the first time to become a father, mother, parents are impressed, and invest more, so the boss is often not easy to be ignored.
The old and young are because of the age advantage, but also harvest the preference of their parents, so in contrast, the second in the family is more like a "gas bag", at the bottom of the family food chain, long-term neglect, resulting in their hearts are hurt, resentful, and naturally unwilling to filial piety to their parents in the future.
2. Parents dote on their children
There is a popular saying in the field of education: "Coddling is not love, it is the greatest harm." ”
Parents' bottomless and unprincipled love for their children, on the one hand, deprives them of the opportunity to grow independently, rely too much on others in the future, have no own opinions, and it is difficult to survive after going to society in the future;
On the other hand, coddling is easy to make the child's personality deformed, self-centered in the future, only know how to take, but unwilling to pay, so for outsiders, for parents, talk about how to filial piety to parents.
3, parents have too much control
This is the criticism of many Chinese families, parents are authorities, children are the "appendages" of parents, so they habitually control their children's lives, arrange everything for them, but also in the name of love to morally kidnap and deprive children of the right to choose.
As everyone knows, this kind of education will cause children to be breathless, in their eyes, their own life should be their own decisions, even parents, also need their own ideas, blindly suppressed, will only accumulate the anger in the child's heart, the personality becomes extreme.
Maybe when they were young, they didn't have the ability to resist, but when they grew up, they would often erupt, and naturally they were not willing to be filial to their parents.