The example of the elderly life is often seen after the implementation of the two- and three-child policy, not only women over the age of 35, but even some super-aged women over the age of 45 have chosen to take this "hitchhiking" in order to realize the original idea of multiple births. As everyone knows, it is not so easy to fight for the elderly, which may cause more contradictions behind it, and there are also relatively large risks.
Case: 46-year-old mother-in-law and 24-year-old daughter-in-law, one spelling the second child, one pregnant with the first child, suffering two men
Xiao Zhou is 24 years old this year, last year pregnant with the baby, and then in two months will be born, if there is no accident, the original family should be happy, but Xiao Zhou's mother-in-law was pregnant with the second child a few months ago, which makes Xiao Zhou really can't figure it out, obviously the grandchildren are about to be born, the mother-in-law still chooses to prepare for the second child, this decision is really puzzling, which also makes Xiao Zhou and the mother-in-law a little estranged.
Of course, in fact, in the whole process of pregnancy, the most bitter is not the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, but the two men at home, Xiao Zhou's father-in-law and husband are busy outside, every day when they come back from work, they have to divide the work to do housework, and sometimes they will quarrel with their mother-in-law if they neglect something. Xiao Zhou's husband was also very unacceptable to his mother's decision, and even had a big fight with his mother several times because of this problem, but each time it was not resolved. Xiao Zhou was already able to predict that after the birth of the child, I was afraid that the days would become more painful, and I felt that my scalp was tingling when I thought about it.
01 Super elderly students, why is it not as easy as imagined?
In fact, the same is fertility, but the difference is still very obvious, women give birth within the optimal gestation age, whether it is the state during pregnancy, or in the postpartum recovery, and even for newborns, it will have more advantages than older women. Perhaps many super-aged women feel that it is not so difficult before choosing to fight, in fact, this idea is not complete, missing a lot of factors.
The risk of childbearing in ultra-advanced states is greater
We all know that the risk of giving birth at an advanced age is greater than that of the best childbearing age, and the risk rises sharply in the ultra-advanced state. But many ultra-old women do not think so much, but are blinded by the immediate idea, feel that they can take risks, do not know that accompanied by a series of fertility risks, including dystocia, fetal cessation, fetal deformity and so on.
Raising children is difficult
Now many young parents are unable to give their children high-quality education, and even because of the generation gap problem and children have more contradictions, not to mention super-old parents, and the child's generation gap is even greater, as the child grows up, especially after the child enters puberty, the parents' age is getting older, and it is easier to have contradictions in communication. At this time, a wrong education of parents may lead children astray and affect the future of children, so in the matter of parenting, it has always been a headache for super-elderly parents.
Economic pressure is greater
For super-aged parents, if there is no savings, as the children grow up, there are more places to spend money, especially in the matter of children's education, which requires a steady stream of education funds, plus when the children reach marriageable age, there must also be financial support, and the pressure on parents is even greater.
Intensify family conflicts
For those families who already have one or two children, if they choose to fight again at the super old age stage of their parents, most of the other children are older at this time, and it is likely that they will oppose the parents' ideas, and if the two sides disagree, they may intensify the family conflict to a large extent. If this contradiction cannot be resolved, even if the second and third children are born in the future, it may affect the feelings between brothers and sisters.
Of course, in addition to the more critical reasons mentioned above, there must be other factors. Therefore, it is still recommended that super-elderly couples must fully consider and improve their psychological ability to withstand stress before preparing for life, because after the birth of the child, the problems to be faced are far more than they think now, and they will be more complex.
Many people are because even if they have made sufficient psychological preparations before, they still feel very weak and even feel collapsed when they really cope. Therefore, there is still a big gap between imagination and reality, or to look at it rationally, be prepared, and avoid bringing more trouble to yourself and your family.