Generally before the age of 3, infants and young children, in the early growth process is mainly in the development of their own body and self-awareness, this young stage of children, the adult set of rules is completely no concept, they will only be very focused on one thing to implement, and enjoy it, that is, to develop themselves, the development of their own heart and brain.
Children at this stage may be very fond of constantly throwing things, you give him one, he throws one on the ground, even if you clearly tell him no, he still continues to throw as if he did not hear. This phenomenon of the child is actually developing his self-awareness. His attention is not on whether you adults like it, or whether the directors or not accept his eccentric ways of behaving. And through such operations to develop and develop themselves. For children at this age, perhaps the so-called rules given to adults are a kind of disturbance or offense.
When we say "no" to such a young child, what is the child's first reaction? His first reaction must have been to cry. So the question is, how do we make the rules really take root in his heart? A very important way is that when the child is crying, we hold him, and we recognize and allow his emotions and feelings: because something cannot be done, or a certain will cannot be fulfilled, he feels sad or sad.
In fact, for this kind of young child, it is necessary to allow them to vent their ignorant thoughts by crying and having emotions, which is equivalent to telling the child that parents also love you and are willing to accompany you to face your emotions. It's just that because adults don't let children do these things that violate the rules, you are sad, you are lying. But there are ranges where you violate it, and even if you cry, it allows you to do it.
If in the process of growing up, adults can establish a clear sense of rules for children, then children will subtly learn some of the behaviors that adults want to express from various things, so that they know from an early age that this is not allowed. But Mom and Dad still love us. When a child of only three years gradually establishes a concept and cognition in life, it will be a lifelong benefit for him.
Do you think it makes sense?