In a relationship, the more you give, can you make the other party inseparable from yourself and win the respect and touch of the other party?
In fact, this is not the case, many girls' love is giving, and the longer they spend with each other, the more they pay, the more they can't help but express their love.
But to really grasp the heart of boys, in love to avoid the following thoughts, but the opposite.
01, I don't spend money on men, he will think I deserve to be loved
Girls are more sensitive in material terms, especially kind and soft-hearted girls, always unconsciously thinking that it is not easy for each other to earn money.
How can I always let the other party pay the bill, so every time I date, girls always subconsciously calculate every expense.
Some girls are directly transferred to their boyfriends after returning home, some girls are also rushing to pay the bill, and some girls are still getting along with each other, you invite me to dinner, I invite you to watch movies.
Girls always want to use this way to prove that they are different from those who "love material things", and they just like each other as a person, rather than wanting to get something from each other.
But in fact, boys do not have this considerate approach of girls, but feel that the other party is understanding, and feel that girls are a person worthy of being cherished.
Some boys will feel that they have no face in this way, and they insist on paying the bill, and there is no surprise.
02, I take good care of him, he will be moved
Boys like the feeling of being taken care of by others, everyone likes it, but this kind of care also needs a sense of proportion, and some just the right greeting will make him feel warm and feel that he is cared for.
But this kind of care is definitely not the kind that starts from the beginning of eating and living, and it is hard to learn to cook for him and help him sort out the housework.
Most boys don't appreciate it, but feel like they've found a free babysitter and will hate each other more and more.
A housewife is a good example, you give up a lot of opportunities and your favorite job for the other person, but in the end you become the wife who stretches out her hand in his mouth.
Your meticulous care of him, maybe he will not appreciate it, and your efforts cannot be exchanged for his gratitude.
03, I put the privacy out of the whole, he feels that I am sincere
Couples need to be honest with each other, but honesty does not mean that two people must be able to do without secrets and give up their past.
People still need some distance between people, and this distance is not only geographical, but also psychological.
You tell the truth about how many times you have been in love, and you tell the details, and he doesn't feel how honest you are.
Instead, he felt that there was a sudden panic in his heart, and you were eating at the restaurant together, and he would think about whether you had also come here with your ex.
You tie him carefully, and as he looks at your skillful technique, he can't help but think of what boyfriend you told him about learning to tie.
You tell him what kind of hurt you have been and what kind of unknown past you have, but you must also understand that this practice is to show your weakness to the other party without concealment.
And whether he can bear your trust and guard your secrets well, in fact, everything is unknown.
04, I take the initiative to disclose the relationship, he will be open
In love, which party will be more inclined to immediately announce the relationship and share the joy of their love with the people around them, most of them are girls.
Boys don't like to be public, and they don't like to make their lives public, of course, some boys don't open their relationships in these names.
Girls can't be naïve enough to think that as long as they seriously announce the news that two people are together, and show affection from time to time, boys will also be infected by themselves.
Those boys who are reluctant to open their relationship from the beginning are not because there are many unfamiliar people in their address book, nor do they think that Xiu En'ai is very childish.
In fact, I don't like you enough, so I don't want to add trouble to myself, but also deliberately make it public, and it is also very troublesome to delete the dynamics in the future.
The above practices are all practices that do not put themselves in the right position in this relationship, and deliberately try to please each other in exchange for love.
Other people's good feelings for you are always because of how accommodating you are, nor because of your flattery and deliberateness.
But because of your value, the emotional value that you bring to the other party by your optimism and generosity, and the emotional value that you bring to the other party by your efforts to be self-motivated.
As long as he likes you enough, even if you occasionally do something that makes him unhappy, he will smile and tolerate your little temper.
Some things, you think you can make the other party happy after doing it, in fact, the other party not only does not appreciate it, but it is not appropriate, and you will not feel happy.
At this time, or stop the loss in time, feel at ease to be yourself, there will always be someone running high to you.