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With the gift is the most common link in the marriage and childbirth of such a big event, the host family has a happy event, I bring the gift to congratulate, talk about my congratulations, with the gift is not the invention of modern people, as early as thousands of years ago, probably with the birth of the ritual system, the "History" recorded such a story, Confucius traveled around the world, the reputation is outside, many people want to win him over to let him be his staff, a person named Yang Hu has asked to see Confucius many times can not see, he thought of an idea, all said that Confucius most follow the etiquette, I went to the door to give him a gift, and he would definitely come to the door to return the gift, so he carried a roast suckling pig and put it in the Kong family, and sure enough, in a few days, Confucius really went to find Yang Hu with the gift.
"Coming and going without being indecent", this is a way of thinking that has lasted for thousands of years, especially when Zhu Yuanzhang was in power in the Ming Dynasty, he simply implemented a rule, who has a marriage and funeral, relatives and neighbors must pay money to help, once the administrative force is exerted, the ceremony has become a rule that the common people must abide by, and even in the Qing Dynasty, the government also printed a money ticket specially used for gifts, which further encouraged the trend of ceremonies.
To this day, casual gifts are our most common social activities, the original intention is to deepen the feelings between relatives and friends, to expand our social circle, but with it, there are still whether we should follow the gift, how much with the gift, many times because of a gift, even the usual relationship of friends can also have a gap, then what kind of people are not suitable for us to follow the gift?
The first is that people who usually have no contact, and even more as many as ten years have not been in contact, this kind of etiquette should not follow, it is said that some people are nothing to climb the Three Treasures Hall, with gifts to collect money only think of you, how can this be a reliable relationship? When there are happy events at home, dozens or hundreds of tables are placed, and even people who have only one side of the relationship are invited, most of these people are not widely interpersonal, but just to accumulate wealth.
The second is that no matter how big or small, you must do a big deal of people, you may have met this kind of person, call you when you get married, call you when you have a child, call you when you have a full moon, and even call you when the child has a birthday, if it is a very iron relationship, it doesn't matter, but the relationship is average, either for a lively, face, or just for the money in your pocket.
The third kind of person is a person who does not return the gift, not only the gift when doing happy things, including the usual communication, he can find you to do things, you can find him to do things, you can invite him to eat, he will never invite you to eat, this kind of only know to ask for do not know the return, and even say that they do not respect you, most of them are selfish people, let alone good relations with gifts, I think it is useless to treat each other again.
Of course, regarding the ceremony, the ancients also said such a sentence, to you, "The ceremony is not congratulated, and the order of the people is also." Have you ever experienced a ritual you don't want to follow? You can talk.