How much influence does the family of origin affect the child? Let's put it this way, the preaching of parents' ears and life-threatening faces cannot withstand the subtle influence, and different native families will cultivate children with different personalities.
Today, let's talk about the original family where the child forms a flattering personality. The child of this personality will blindly neglect to please others, because he is afraid of not being liked by others, afraid of being ignored.
Therefore, again and again, I wronged myself to satisfy others, and my own demands dropped again and again, and gradually forgot what I really liked.
What kind of native family will make the child develop a pleasing personality?
First, the relationship between parents is not good, and they often quarrel
Children who grow up in this kind of family environment often look at their parents' faces and talk and do things, in order not to be abandoned and scolded, so they try their best to please their parents, and when they go to society, they also continue this instinct.
Second, there are many children in the family, and the parents are eccentric
In order to attract the attention of their parents, children who are not valued are willing to do it as long as it is liked by their parents and can get the love of their parents.
Moral kidnapping, using their own needs to determine the choice of children
When your child can make his own choices, don't interfere. You can give advice to your child from your own experience, but you can't deprive him of his right to choose.
Moderately considering problems from the perspective of others, thinking about others is sensible, but completely abandoning their own ideas and not putting forward any of their own demands has become flattery.
Dear parents, if you are also inadvertently exhibiting these behaviors, please stop! Let the child get rid of the "flattering personality" and be brave to be themselves.