He has a very good friend, but his personality is not very good, and when he was studying before, he found him very violent and had an acute child.
I remember once, his child got up in the morning to brush his teeth, probably because he just woke up, grinding and rubbing, and then his wife was not at home, he was very angry, he felt that he was going to be late soon, you were still rubbing, feeling that the child was very ignorant, and then he threw the bag there, you don't go to school.
The child is very innocent, he does not know what happened, and then he hides in that corner and does not dare to say a word, silently crying, at this time he feels very annoying: why do you cry when you have done something wrong?
Then the child did something that made him even more angry, the child secretly called the mother, the mother was working in the field, heard that the child was very aggrieved and rushed over.
It was originally a small thing, but now it has become relatively large, and then the mother and the father began to quarrel fiercely, and then in a fit of anger, the mother left with the child.
What kind of impact do angry parents have on their children? What kind of characteristics will a child's personality be? Do you really know?
Flattering personality
Parents who are very angry will cause a lot of psychological pressure on their children, and they will feel as if they are sorry for the whole world if they do not do this well.
The most typical example is that some parents feel that their children are born by themselves, so they must complete their dreams, such as hoping to be a soldier, hoping that their children can also work hard and then become talents.
But what parents ignore is whether his own child can become a soldier, whether he has this ability, if he does not have this ability, how can we take this porcelain job? The child will also be very miserable, because no matter how hard he tries, he can't do it.
Because parents do not have a clear understanding of the world, do not understand that children have a lot of potential, should explore the aspect they like, rather than the aspect that parents like, so it causes certain pain to the child, but also causes certain pain to the parents, and even causes serious harm to the relationship between the two of them.
In order to fulfill the wishes of the parents, or in order to achieve a certain psychology of the parents, the child continues to work hard and becomes the look in the eyes of the parents, and when he encounters something he likes one day, he understands that the previous ones are in vain.
Insecurity
In the past, there was a friend who looked very beautiful, with good body and good learning ability, but when we fell in love, we found that it had a characteristic, that is, there was no sense of security, until later when we talked about our hearts together, we gradually understood, because our parents were very violent and had a bad temper, so we formed a serious psychological barrier to it.
Later, when he got married, he found an old uncle, who did not look outstanding, but would give him a very strong love, we don't know if this marriage can go very far, but we look forward to him to have a good life.
Insecurity is really a very big harm, may take a lifetime to make up for it, even if the best person is insecure, he will still feel that he is not good enough to achieve the way his parents think.
There are even some people who will do something excessive, and people who are insecure will feel very miserable in life, because no matter how hard they try, they will feel that they will never be able to achieve their own satisfaction. The most important thing is that this feeling can be inherited, and maybe this feeling of your parents for you, you will also pass it on to the next generation.
Become very sensitive
A friend was writing a novel, and I lamented how good his writing was, and then he told me a story like this, when he was a child, he was a very informal girl, but his parents were always very violent, because the little things would punish him.
Later, he involuntarily formed a sensitive psychology, for example, when getting along with others, others said that your earrings today are a bit incompatible with your clothes, he will be very concerned, and immediately run to a place to change.
In fact, he likes this earring very much or many people like it, but it is this psychological influence that makes him very sensitive and very concerned about other people's opinions.
Of course my friend became a novelist, so this bad influence is still relatively good for him, but how many people can really succeed and turn good because of this bad emotion.
All in all, living in a violent family, the child will be very affected, living in a family where parents are particularly angry, the child will also be overwhelmed, want to give the child a healthy and beautiful environment, then parents must restrain their temper, try to be beautiful in front of the child.
Life is not easy, we need to have a clear and beautiful plan for our lives, so that our children can grow up healthy in this environment.