Although not listening to what the old man says, it is not necessarily a loss in front of you, but sometimes the old man's words do have reference value.
Ms. A, 80 years old, I don't think most of the social is meaningful, and there are even some disadvantages. Therefore, I will go to the false and true, eliminate the unnecessary grouping, and then strive for excellence in the group, only with three or five friends, if blindly gregarious, there will be signs of disorganization.
I have had the experience of blindly gregariously, often hearing a variety of groups tell a variety of voices, either will spread a variety of negative energy, or will say gossip or parents short, every time I hear it, I feel bad. The mood can not be calm for a long time, I am afraid that in the long run it will have a negative impact on my state of mind, so I try to be alone, consciously stripped from the group that does not dare to compliment, and only intersect with the group worth interacting with for the rest of my life, the number of groups for me is not more the better, but the more refined the better.
Mr. B, 85 years old, the older I get, the more I feel that my energy is limited, and I feel that my time is limited, so I will cherish my energy as much as I cherish time. Sociality is complex communication, often feel involuntary, even if the heart feels uncomfortable, it also needs to force a smile, and even need to be timely and happy, the heart will feel extremely tired. The feeling of being tired in the heart is more difficult to recover than the tiredness of the body.
Later, when the socialization becomes a burden of my life, I will immediately unload it. As I drifted away from gregariousness, I found that not only was my energy full, but my time was richer, I had enough time to do what I liked to do, and life would feel both fuller and more enjoyable than ever. Inadvertently, I actually had more energy and more time to spend with my family, in addition to self-cultivation and cultivation of sentiments will gradually be put on the agenda.
Ms. C, 90 years old, is easy to lose herself in the group, after all, too much gregariousness will increase the probability of losing words, which will provoke right and wrong. The peace of life will no longer exist, originally I was not a non-human, mistakenly hit and bumped into the rabble, although I know that I am out of the mud and not stained, but most of the outsiders who do not know will think that I am close to Zhu red, close to ink black, then I will be indefensible.
In order to avoid the troubles of human sophistication, I will choose to live a pure life, rather than participating in the solitary solitude of a group of people, but rather participating in the solitude of a person's carnival. Now in addition to participating in the carefully selected group, most of the spare time will be reasonably allocated to planting flowers, reading, writing or listening to light music, etc., less dust and chores in the heart, the heart will naturally be smooth and comfortable.
Conclusion: Gregarious is inclined to please others, so being alone is tending to please oneself, so it is crucial to weigh the relationship between being gregarious and alone.
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