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I don't know if you have found it, for the second-born family, the second child is often smarter than the boss.
Many people will be curious, they are the same parents, compared to the second eldest, the eldest has a congenital advantage. First of all, the eldest is the first child, and the family pays more attention. From the beginning of pregnancy, pregnant mothers are careful about eating and wearing, especially eating, unhealthy and nutritious points are not touched, for fear of slightly harming the baby.
After the child was born, the family circled around him, not to mention the food and clothing, and the parenting process was also exquisite everywhere, careful everywhere, and did not dare to be sloppy, it can be said that it is really a book. In addition, the resources in the family are generally given priority to the boss, and the parents are also interested in giving the boss an early education class.
And when there is the second, the family is too fresh, pregnant mothers eat not so care, as long as it is not toxic and harmful want to eat, the second to eat and wear can pick up the boss to pick up the boss, completely according to the pig, the second does not even go to the early education class. According to this point of view, it should be that the boss is smarter. So why is it that in many families, the second eldest is smarter than the eldest? After learning the reason, he was inexplicably distressed by the second elder.
The boss is too intensive, but it restricts the development of the boss, while the free-range second gives full play to his maximum potential
As mentioned earlier, in most families, the eldest is intensively raised. From food, clothing, housing and transportation to all aspects of the special care, so that although to the greatest extent to provide a safe growth environment for children, but to some extent also restrict the development of children.
Every step of the boss's growth is under the close attention of the family, and even the family has made arrangements in advance, and the child seems to be fixed in a certain framework and raised, losing his own nature. And the second eldest of the stocking, because the family is not so careful, gives the second free growth space, there is no such constraint environment, the child plays by himself, explores by himself, but can stimulate the greatest potential.
Therefore, raising children really should not be too delicate, too careful, otherwise adults will be affected, and children will be bound in various ways, which is not conducive to brain and physical development.
The second eldest was born with a competitor who needs "heart eyes" and "competition for favors" to live a better life
After the eldest was born, he was a child in the family, and all the focus and attention of the family was on him, all the toys in the family, and the delicious food was his alone. He didn't have to do anything at all, he had everything.
But after the second eldest was born, there was an eldest in the family, and the family had established a deep relationship with him. Even if the second eldest is born, he will not neglect the eldest. It means that two children share the love and attention of their family, as well as some resources. The eldest is old and is handy with everything.
If the second brother does not learn to compete for favors and use some "heart eyes", their sense of presence at home will be weaker. In order to get more survival resources and care, the second eldest must learn to observe the color of speech from a young age, learn to compete for favors, and use some "careful eyes". In such an environment, the second eldest will behave more cleverly.
[Topic Discussion: Is your family the second older smarter than the eldest? 】
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