The child is in a mood, you are kind enough to enlighten, and the result is that the child is more angry and closes the door with a bang...
The wife was depressed, you wanted to go to comfort, but it turned into a quarrel...
This is the norm in our homes.
The following steps are also what I want to share with the children's fathers!
One person's truest state of being loved by another is unconditional acceptance. The origin of all a child's troubles lies in the need to exchange the love of his parents for flattery, behavior and performance in the family.
So how do you unconditionally accept your child and make it perceived? Practice polishing from the following steps!
First, identify with the child, identify with the child's emotions. If you want to change a person's behavior, you have to influence his thoughts, and if you want to influence his thoughts, the first step is to identify with his emotions.
How to identify with your child's emotions?
1, from absent-minded to full concentration, to pay attention, to help her deal with emotions, to avoid cold violence against her. Listen to your child with full concentration and make eye contact. The body should lean towards her.
2. Listen to the content instead of listening to the emotion. If you only listen to the content, you will react to the content, you will be eager to ask why, and you will evaluate her right or wrong. If you listen to emotions, you repeat her emotional feelings: for example, um, oh, you seem to be a little annoyed. You seem to be angry. When emotions are identified, they turn me and you into us.
That way, the door of her heart opens, she can start talking, she can open her mind, and then you can help change her behavior.
2. Respect
1) If you want your child to respect others, you must first respect her. The first thing to do is to respect your child's ownership of items. To learn to respect your child's thoughts, for example, it is interesting to say that your ideas are interesting, but I don't quite agree with them.
3. Discovery
Discover your child's unique gifts and don't make unfair comparisons.
The above communication applies to other intimate relationships as well!
