Children, in the eyes of Chinese, are treasures. How innocent and lovely they are, how obedient and well-behaved they are, they are simply angels given by God to every pair of parents. However, as their children grow up day by day, many parents find that their children have changed, becoming more and more disobedient, even to the point of unacceptable. As a result, parents began to be anxious, painful, helpless, impulsive, and overwhelmed. At this time, if parents do not recognize the following 3 points, they will not be able to correctly educate their children, which will inevitably lead to the parent-child relationship being like water and fire, and even make the child fall into an irreparable situation. At this point, parents will regret it and want to cry without tears.
First, rebellion is necessary for a child's growth and does not have to be labeled in a pejorative sense. After falling to the ground, the child is like a blank piece of paper. What the world draws on paper, he learns. Day after day, year after year, after more than a dozen spring, summer, autumn and winter, children have accumulated a lot of their own cognition of the world. The child says yes or no to the world based on these perceptions because he wants to make choices and judgments that are beneficial to himself. Protecting yourself and allowing yourself to be happy and joyful is a human instinct . Allowing children to enhance this ability is what all parents aspire to. At this time the child is like a small bird, he has hardened his wings . More and more to have their own propositions, is the only way to grow up and is a sign of gradual independence. The more you have your own opinions, the more it means that you will no longer obey your parents in everything you say. Parents should be happy for their children's growth. Although the child is not fully mature, there are still some shortcomings, but those so-called shortcomings will disappear little by little in the child's future growth. haste makes waste. Parents do not need to worry and seek their own troubles.
Second, rebellion is a one-way judgment of a parent about his child, and from the child's point of view, he will consider himself a brave "revolutionary". When a child has enough cognition on his own, his need for respect and recognition becomes stronger. Children speak their own judgments and choices, hoping that their parents and those around them will give them understanding, respect, recognition and support. If this need is not met, the child will insist on his or her own understanding of personnel in order to reinforce this need and put pressure on others. This is the rebellion in the eyes of parents. Parents are very persistent, and not listening to their parents or not recognizing the experience is rebellion. However, everyone lives in their own cognitive closed loop, who listens to whom? Who is right? Who isn't rebelling? Parents must see through that rebellion in their children's words and deeds is only an appearance, and his need for understanding, recognition, respect and support is the essence. The child is not targeting the parents, he just wants to get what he deserves at his age from others. Parents can only abandon the rebellious colored label, recognize the "revolution" of their children, and guide them on the basis of supporting their children's needs.
Third, the child's rebellion is also a warning to parents that there is a problem, and parents should introspect themselves. All the problems of the child can be found in the shadow of the parents. Parents are a child's first teacher. Parents' words and deeds and every move of the child are in the eyes. The quality of the parents themselves and the method of education are crucial to the child. The social environment in which the child is located is also the key to the child's growth. Meng Mu moved three times only for children. It is normal for children to have shortcomings. The Son does not teach, the Father is at fault. Parents should reflect on themselves in everything and always find reasons in themselves. This is a sign of parental sobriety and bravery.
Friends, I am a new world. Seeing this, what other insights do you have?