Text/Themi Mama (original article, welcome to share and forward personally)
First of all, I would like to ask you a question: Who is carrying your children?
In recent years, the fertility rate has shown a gradual downward trend, one of the main reasons is the question of who will bring the child after birth.
I have to say that the current social environment and the past are very different, in the past, in the matter of taking a baby, Bao Ma was the absolute main force.
However, with the progress of society, women play more roles in social labor, so it is gradually a new fashion for the elderly to bring their babies.
So the question is, will you give the child to grandma to bring, or will grandma bring it? What are the differences between the two?
01. A small detail that made me find that the grandma belt is different from the grandma belt
My husband and I are only children, when Dabao was born, I was alone, sometimes grandma and grandma will come to help, but the main force with the baby is still myself.
Therefore, but there is not too deep feeling, but after the birth of the second treasure, there are some feelings.
After Erbao was born, I bid farewell to the role of full-time mother and entered the workplace, and the elderly on both sides were in good health, so Erbao let them rotate the belt.
As erbao got bigger and bigger, I found some small problems.
For example, whenever Grandma picks up Erbao from school, Erbao will always hold a lot of things in her hands, but if Grandma goes to pick up school, Erbao is often empty-handed.
For this phenomenon, I also specifically asked Erbao, I said: "When you come back with your grandmother, why do you take so many things every time, and why don't you have one with your grandmother?"
Dabao's answer was also very interesting, he said: "I am embarrassed to ask my grandmother for something."
Through this detail, I found that there are actually some obvious differences between the grandmother belt and the grandmother belt.
02. What is the difference between a grandmother's belt and a grandmother's child?
Now many post-90s are only children, so the elderly on both sides are showing an equal situation in the matter of taking a baby.
However, for children, although grandma and grandma take about the same amount of time, there are still some differences.
In the baby's heart, there is still something else in the intimacy
In most families in our country, husband and wife live with their in-laws, so in this case, the child will have a feeling that grandparents are their own people, and grandparents are relatives.
In addition, today's children are small clever ghosts, surname this thing is an unavoidable problem, children follow whose surname, naturally will be closer to whom.
So in this case, what the child dares to do to his grandparents may not dare to do it with his grandparents.
There is also a difference in the degree of pampering
In addition to the concept of intimacy, there will also be differences in the care of children.
For example, Grandma, because when taking the baby, in order to fulfill the responsibility, try not to make mistakes, the requirements for the baby will be more stringent.
For example, I will not buy snacks for my children, nor will I let my children play outside lawlessly.
But the grandmother is different, in the matter of taking the baby, the concern may not be so much, the child has any requirements, will be as far as possible to meet, compared to the grandmother, will be more spoiled children.
Because the child is relatively young and does not have the ability to discern the essence of the problem, it is who is better for me and more able to meet my needs, and I am closer to whom.
Therefore, we often go to pick up the child from school, and when we see the elderly who pick up the child, as long as we observe the way the child gets along with the elderly, we can basically judge whether it is a grandmother or a grandmother.
03. No matter how good the old man with the baby is, there are drawbacks after all
For many parents, letting the elderly help with the baby is actually a helpless situation, especially for couples with relatively large economic pressure, if they really bring a baby at home, then the person who goes out to make money to support the family will be more stressful.
But then again, although the elderly help is a helpless move, it can help us solve the urgent need, but there will still be some drawbacks.
First, it deprives the elderly of their old age.
The old man has worked hard all his life and wants to spend his old age comfortably, but if he lets his child be tied up, it is difficult to do what he wants to do.
Second, the old man is not as flexible as the young man
If people are old, not only will their reactions be slower, but also their ability to cope with things will decline, children are mischievous, and the elderly are sometimes a little inattentive, and there may be some problems.
Therefore, although the old man can help with the baby, if he relies on the old man all the time, then it is certainly not a wise move.
Third, children need the company of their parents the most.
The growth of children is inseparable from the intimate companionship of parents, and parents are the ones who have a profound impact on children's personality and emotions.
Moreover, children who are accompanied by their parents with love are more mentally sound and have more positive energy.
Mother Themi's message:
In fact, if there is a condition, as a parent, you still have to accompany your child more, and don't miss the beauty and happiness of accompanying your child during the golden period of your child's growth.
Finally, I would like to ask you, do you think there is any difference between the baby brought by grandma and the baby brought by grandma?