My sister-in-law and cousin broke up because my grandmother rolled out a bowl of noodles.
Originally, I thought that this kind of scene would only appear in the TV series, but I didn't expect it to happen in my real life, and it was far more bizarre than we thought.
Point 1, the love of the sister-in-law and cousin.
Almost two years ago, my cousin suddenly called me and asked me to go to my grandmother's house for dinner, and my cousin and I were not brothers, but we were about the same.
The two of us grew up playing with each other' feelings, which was called a good one, and when we got to Grandma's house, Grandma gave us hand-rolled noodles.
It's almost Grandma's job, a small piece of dough, through her own hands, in a moment to be able to make a very good hand rolling dough.
The noodles are so strong to eat that I often joke that I can't eat the authentic hand-rolled noodles of my grandmother in a snack bar outside.
Because of this, Grandma's hand rolling noodles has also become the highest standard among our grandchildren, so that when I often go to Grandma's house, Grandma always complains, after you came, I had to rest for half a day after I had a hand rolling do with back pain.
And this time I went to my grandmother's house just right, and the object of my cousin was my sister-in-law. Because my sister-in-law came for the first time, she was more restrained, and she stood on the side all the time, and did not sit on the chair bench and sofa next to her.
It is understandable, after all, the first time to come to grandma's house, but the performance of my sister-in-law made me frown, and at the same time I had a bad premonition.
Why? Because after the sister-in-law came to her grandmother's house, she didn't say a word, didn't say a word, and didn't even drink the saliva.
Grandma handed over the water, sister-in-law did not say a word to throw on the table, and then said a word of embarrassment, I am not thirsty, I do not need to drink now, just such a sentence always makes people feel very surprised.
Grandma did not take it seriously, mainly because there are still noodles boiling in the pot, and you have to hurry up to take the chopsticks to stir it, otherwise the noodles will stick directly to a piece, which will affect the taste.
After about two hours of busy work, Grandma cooked a small bowl of noodles and put the noodles on the table, and my cousin and Grandma ate it in a mess.
I finished eating quickly, but my sister-in-law didn't move, not only didn't move, but also handed this bowl and chopsticks forward, and said coldly, I'm sorry, I'm not hungry at all.
After saying this, Grandma felt that something was wrong, and whispered what was wrong with this girl.
How not to be hungry or thirsty, not to eat or drink water, is it not something that is not done well and offends people?
Grandma's words were heard by the girl, and the girl nodded and said, Yes, it offended me, and after saying that, she turned her head and left here.
At that time, my grandmother and I were wide-eyed and small-eyed, and we really didn't know what had happened, whether it was a conflict between my sister-in-law and my cousin.
The cousin saw that the situation was not right and said goodbye to the grandmother, turned his head and went out, and after two or three days I met with my cousin again, asked the cousin what was going on, and whether he really provoked his sister-in-law.
After listening to it, my cousin said with a hammer, don't mention it, I broke up with your sister-in-law.
What's going on? It turned out that when the cousin took his sister-in-law to the house to eat hand-rolled noodles, the sister-in-law saw all kinds of black cracks on her grandmother's fingers and the mud in her fingernails.
When drinking water, Grandma also took the kind of tattered bowl with scratches and cracks on it.
In fact, this situation in my hometown has long been accustomed, although I have worked and lived in the big city for a long time, but when I arrived at my grandmother's house, I basically did not feel that it was not clean or hygienic.
Grandma gave what should be eaten to eat, anyway, there has been no stomach pain, I am used to my cousin is also used to, I guess my sister-in-law is not used to it.
At that time, I whispered a sentence after listening to it, this is not a big deal, cousin, you don't want to die to face the guilt, don't you just apologize to others?
After saying this, my cousin said angrily on the side, I apologized to him, and after the apology, people did not listen to me at all and said that I was torturing others.
This matter, which I did not consider at first, was indeed my fault, but he also said bad things about my grandmother, saying that my grandmother gave him water just to make her stomach hurt, and to give him hand-rolled noodles, just to make his stomach indigestible.
I also said a lot of bad things about my dirty and messy house, and I didn't bother to maintain this marriage.
Point 2, how do you think about this?
First of all, I want to make it clear that the main point of error in this matter is not on anyone, not even in my cousin and my cousin's side.
But it is not that the grandson is not filial piety or unreasonable, it is true that the guests did not wash their hands, and the dishes and chopsticks were relatively dirty, which was unreasonable in itself, not the way of hospitality.
But because we grandchildren are used to it, who is so clean to be honest?
Therefore, those of us who have basically not considered this matter, of course, it is also possible that those of our grandchildren are really big-hearted and have not taken this matter seriously.
But we can not do it, the cousin's girlfriend will definitely take this matter as a thing, after all, people come for the first time, plus if the temperament is more sensitive, it will inevitably amplify this matter infinitely.
But even if we are infinitely enlarged, we must retain the most basic bottom line, because we must understand that some elderly people do not like to talk about hygiene or some elderly people have no hygiene at all, such concepts and concepts are understandable.
After all, the ages are different, and we have a generation gap with our parents' generation, let alone with our grandparents' generation.
In this case, he generously told grandma that he was not hungry or that he was a little uncomfortable and did not want to eat.
Then you must communicate this matter with your partner husband or girlfriend in time, explain this matter clearly, and break it to understand it.
There is no need to drill the horns in this matter, because once the bull's horn is drilled in this matter, a marriage that can be formed will eventually break up.
In addition, I would also like to say that because I was born in the countryside since I was a child, I can also do some things in the countryside, cooking or eating in the village is not very hygienic, which is basically not the case now.
But for some older people, occasionally they will be negligent, and when they encounter this situation, they will directly point out that it is good, people are not deliberately targeting us, maybe people themselves are like this.
And when I ate, I had already done very well or had done very well, but this was far from our hygiene standards.