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What does love taste like? Or, people who haven't experienced it won't understand it, or people who have experienced it will find it difficult to fully appreciate it.
It is said that love can make people live, but also can make people die. This statement may be exaggerated, but countless love stories also show that love is the most capable of touching people's hearts, people's lives, joy and sorrow, most of them are also related to love.
Falling in love with a person will be fully committed to initiating, and will pay extra attention to his every move.
When you fall in love with someone, you just want to be with him, and you don't want to be separated day and night.
This is love. Love is the most important factor for two men and women to come together.
A writer once said: When you really love someone, you will forget your own bittersweet gains and losses, and only care about each other's bittersweet gains and losses.
This is also the moving place of love. When you love, you care about each other, you care about each other, you always have more than yourself. In love, it is also willing to hold a heart in front of the other party and let the ta see that the heart is only beating for the TA.
How deep the love is, when it comes to having to be apart, or how deep the pain is.
When you love someone very much, he suddenly says to you: Break up...
How would you react? What kind of mood will it be?
Come to think of it, this sudden blow and pain is devastating. Otherwise, there won't be so many people who make themselves look like people when they are out of love.
For example, there is a child who has recently lost love and comes to talk to me every day.
Her friend's surname is Luo, and I call her Xiao Luo. Xiao Luo is only in his twenties, graduated from college for four years, and works for a company.
The man she loved, a year older than her, was a college brother. They've been together for six years.
For six years, they had been in love with each other, and she had always thought that they would continue like this until they were white-haired.
However, not long ago, he said to Xiao Luo: Break up, we are no longer suitable for together...
He used the words "no longer fit," meaning that their current identity or location had changed, or that they had a distance.
Xiao Luo was naturally unwilling, she gave him her youth and love, and more importantly, she still loved him now. She doesn't feel that there is anything "no longer suitable" about them, because in terms of work, he is not much better than her; in terms of salary, he is not much higher than her, so what "no longer fits"?
However, he was very determined, saying that they should not waste any more time with each other. He moved out of the house the two of them rented as quickly as he could, changing his phone and other contact details as quickly as he could.
His determination made Xiao Luo helpless and made her heart broken.
She didn't know how hard he had in his heart to be able to say this and go, and break it off. Can six years of relationship really be written off like this?
She said that there were not many differences between them, and there were not many quarrels or anything like that. On the contrary, she felt that their lives, like a real couple, were plain and calm.
So, she didn't understand. Because I don't understand, I suffer.
But I think, or xiao Luo thinks that this kind of plain and calm life is exactly what men want to get rid of, and he doesn't want to see the future life go on like this. Or maybe he left for some other reason, Xu was tired of a woman who had been around for six years, and Xu was a woman who could bring him new passions and feelings.
These are all possible.
In love, for the party who is broken up, there will be a long period of discomfort, or unwillingness. Xiao Luo is.
She couldn't stand being suddenly unloved and suddenly being broken up. Such pain can only be deeply felt by herself.
There is always a reason to break up, but Xiao Luo himself did not realize it. Everything in the world has a cause and effect, so Xiao Luo's love must also have hidden factors that outsiders do not know about that lead to breakup.
However, she only fell into pain and could not extricate herself, but she did not reflect on the reasons for the breakup.
To love someone, it is true that it is impossible to say that it is broken, and that it is forgotten to forget. But since things have happened, if you don't want to face it, you have to face it; if you don't want to accept it, you have to accept it.
If a person's heart is no longer in you, it is useless for you to keep it any more. Rather, face reality, sum up experience, and then, get back on the road and find a happiness that truly belongs to you.
Yes, it's your own. Because all the breakups and departures can only show that the person does not belong to himself, and the two people have not been able to go to the fate of the white head together.
So, in fact, there is no need to obsess, there is no need to tangle, everything is providence.
Or, recognizing this, people will not be so entangled. However, in love or marriage, how to operate and how to protect still need a lot of wisdom.
Otherwise, someone like Xiao Luo, who has been broken up without knowing why, or herself, is the biggest factor in emotional failure.