Interpretation of emotional topics, taking you into more positive emotional worlds! I am your emotional relief, but you have to know how to let yourself go!
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The interaction between men and women, the most afraid of love and no chance, in vain pushed "love" into the abyss of unable to survive!
People are generally unable to face loss, let alone look directly at their own shortcomings in their feelings!
When in a relationship, some people will learn their lessons after losing, laying a good foundation for the next love to get closer.
Some people, always can't understand what forbidden area they touched in that failed relationship, resulting in loss!
In fact, two people who decided to love deeply for a lifetime finally passed by, nothing more than because at the same time as there were problems in communication, they "let go" to be themselves!
Yes, the love between many men and women is halfway through, mostly because of the 2 words "release"!
In any relationship, you have to set yourself up a few forbidden areas that you can't cross yourself:
Don't snoop too much on your partner
Many times, the less you know, the less damage you do! The less damage you do, the less frustrated you will be! A little less frustration, you'll be a little more satisfied.
Think about it: Who can stay away from someone who makes them feel satisfied?
Don't let your "curiosity" break the existing tranquility! In the feelings, the appropriate foolishness is not incomplete in the heart, but the "wisdom" that is rare and confused.
Don't reveal yourself too much
Some people, once in love, begin to "teach", presenting all their experiences and true feelings to their other half. It contains all the secrets that are not known...
You know, in this world, there will never be empathy! The common existence is nothing more than that anyone but yourself can deliberately define you with your experience and secrets!
If you reveal yourself too much, you will invisibly give the other party a privilege to hurt yourself in disguise! The more he knows you, the more hurt you will be.
Those who know all your dark past and unbearable experiences, and who love you and guard you more deeply, do not exist in real life!
People involved in feelings must grasp such a forbidden area for themselves and their other half!
Although emotional matters are often out of your control, at least if you hold such a forbidden area and do not cross it, you can get more opportunities for the rest of your life!
In the interaction between men and women, there are often some small secrets that you think are inconspicuous, that is, the poison that can easily affect the relationship!
In particular, the emotional relationship that can keep these 3 secrets of yourself will be more durable, and you will understand it after reading it:
1: Don't let the other person know their bottom line
In the relationship, we have always believed: keep your reasonable bottom line, you can stand well in the emotional relationship.
It turns out that the people who keep their bottom line have really got the healthy relationship they want!
However, some people have misinterpreted the bottom line! As a result, he did not get the harmony and durability of the relationship like others, under the premise of keeping the bottom line! Why?
Smart people hold the bottom line at the right time; foolish people will expose the bottom line for no reason. This is the key to feelings good and bad, together and divided!
Generally speaking, when the wind and waves are calm, there is no need to show the bottom line! When contradictions and some unexpected situations come, the bottom line of their own reasonableness is the most important and necessary persistence!
Some people think that when there is nothing to do, they first show their bottom line, which is the best way to avoid all the unpleasant occurrences that lead to the breakdown of feelings.
In fact, when you are calm and calm, you have already instilled your bottom line like boiling water! Even, you will make the other half feel that you are "looking for something".
In the end, when the other half breaks your bottom line, there is no fear. Your persistence in defending the bottom line is often a step-by-step compromise with the toughest attitude in order to maintain the relationship.
Therefore, until the last resort, do not easily let the other half know your bottom line, it is not good for you!
The bottom line is a knife, and when it is wielded, it must make the other half feel very painful! Otherwise, you'll become tickling the other person!
2: Don't let the other person know their weaknesses
In real life, no matter what kind of relationship you face, don't ignore human nature!
When human nature is stimulated by reality, how sure you are about a relationship, you will be stabbed by the relationship to the skin!
If you want to feel more happiness and satisfaction in a relationship, don't leak your weaknesses to test humanity in disguise!
The more people know your weaknesses, the more they can turn into a "sick" person with many holes!
Once an emotional relationship is established between men and women, some people will blindly think that this is the closest person to them for the rest of their lives, which is their lifelong dependence. But in the face of human nature, who can be forever, and who can make whom really reliable?
Most of the people who can expose their weaknesses are people who make themselves 100% trusted! And your own trust is often the easiest thing in the world to be disappointed!
You are too obsessed with ta, you really feel that there is no point in living without ta, you are willing to give everything you have for him... Your unreserved love for him is the weakness you need to hide the most!
If you let him know that you must not, he will endlessly hurt you and even proudly leave you!
And, you have to learn not to lose your temper easily! Let him have some bad "pinch" for you, and you can fight for the necessary initiative for yourself very well!
3: Don't let the other person know about your family of origin
A reader asked me how to get back the man I loved! From the reader's description, I scratched the real reason for the breakup between them:
Her boyfriend, after learning of the many dark problems of her original family, gradually alienated her. In the end, between them, there was not even a decent goodbye "ceremony" of parting.
Although, the positive face of feelings should be that no matter what kind of growth experience the person in front of you has had, it will not affect mutual love. But reality is reality, and no one wants to be with a person who is deeply affected by the problems of the original family and stay together for a long time!
The problem of the original ecological family is easy for others to impose on you!
In addition, children who have a negative impact on the original ecological family can easily put the missing parts of the original ecological family in the hope of the feelings of men and women when they grow up.
Once such a phenomenon occurs, even if some of your appeals are normal phenomena, it will be easy for the other half to think that you are "abnormal"!
In any case, you have to remember that there are "outsiders" in this world except yourself. Although you are deeply affected by the original ecological family and need to be cared for and understood, no one wants to be your interpreter! Even if you want to love for the rest of your life, you can't!
Because, the negative impact of your original family on you is beyond your imagination after all!
People are selfish and afraid of being consumed! Your original family problem, not your problem, you don't need to make it transparent!
At the moment when marriage and love are open, love is changeable, whose fault is it?
In fact, the feelings between men and women, where is there any real right and wrong? It is nothing more than loving well when in love, even if only one person does not love or is tired of love, the relationship will stop!
It's just that, if you can, you can properly keep some of your humble little secrets, and your emotional relationship is likely to take the form of the rest of your life!
Don't be defensive about anyone other than yourself.
Living in the world, involved in feelings, we must learn to digest some things by ourselves, and face some problems rationally! Your sincerity, although precious, is likely to be your wishful thinking.
Everyone has their own little secrets, and if keeping them will make you happy, why not learn to "shut up" from now on?
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Love is man's purgatory in the world. Love or friendship, the right time meets the right person to cultivate the right results!
Topic Discussion: Is there a reason why you broke up with your ex? Leave what you are sorry to say to others in your heart and leave it in the comments section below!