Baby, have you done any serious physical training today?
Done, Mom.
Did mom and dad have a similar situation?
If we find that children have become liaring, don't rush to blame and educate children, in fact, lying is also a common problem of children's behavior.
Lying is one of the most common behaviors of human cubs, and it is also a problem that is high and difficult for new parents to complain. The important thing is that parents need to see what is hidden behind the child's lying. After exploring the cause, we can "prescribe the right medicine"
Today we will explore with you the reasons why children do this, and how we reply to children, which is more effective for "treating" children for lying
Why do children often lie?
Many parents feel that their children are the most simple and will not be fake, which is a wrong perception. But for most children, lying is not a character flaw or a moral issue.
Kids just mistake lying for a way to solve the problem.
Therefore, if parents find that their children are lying, it is best not to blindly scold and criticize, but should calmly find out the reason why their children lie. So what do kids often lie about?
Indeed, when it comes to children lying, most parents will instinctively face the enemy and fear that their children will go down the evil road. In fact, in general, the child's original intention does not want to lie, but because his young mind hides small secrets, careful thoughts or small grievances that dare not be said, inconvenient to say or difficult to express clearly, he will take risks.
Lying at different stages deals with Dafa
Although this behavior of the child lying is not right, it is not actually a bad quality problem, as long as the parents can understand the child's motivation, accept the child's normal emotions of hope and fear, through these few tricks can slowly correct the child's behavior Oh ~
Don't push your child too hard
Many times, parents actually know whether the child is lying or not, but they will continue to ask the child. In fact, this will only make children dare not tell the truth, and even some children will "die duck mouth hard".
Let the child feel it
comfortable
Mom and Dad can explain to your child that if he tells you the truth, you won't get angry. Make your child feel safe, secure, and supported.
Tell the truth, children, praise!
The way your child handles things after the fact often depends on your attitude, and after the child tells the truth, they will feel that this is the right behavior and should be done.
Lying has consequences
When your child lies, it's important to correct inappropriate lying, not punishment. So parents can make a family rule about lying. Lying and making mistakes need to be treated separately, and each has corresponding consequences. For example, if the child does not admit that he has secretly played with the computer, for this kind of "wrong plus mistake" situation, parents can extend the time when the child is forbidden to play with the computer as appropriate. When your child is telling the truth, don't forget to give your child a positive reward. For example, if the child voluntarily admits to playing with the computer, the punishment can be relatively reduced.
Let your child know that lying won't solve the problem
Sometimes children lie just to cover up the mistakes they have made, so that they will not be punished by their parents. At this time, parents should teach their children to use the right way to solve the problems that have occurred. In fact, in most cases, children lie, parents know, so you need to hit the core of the problem. Give your child a "way forward" and ask them to find ways to make up for their misconduct.
When children find that even if they make mistakes, their parents will face themselves together and deal with problems patiently, they are more willing to communicate with their parents about their most real situation and the problems they encounter to find solutions, and there is no need to lie.