In fact, in the original work, the author, that is, the role of Yaning, the youngest daughter of Jiang Defu, once playfully talked about the love of his parents, "How do I see it, how do I think they are not compatible, it turns out that the old man of the moon also has a time to do stupid things!" ”
In the author's eyes, the father and mother can not say that there is love for a lifetime, "write about the love of my father and wife with great fanfare, provided that if marriage is also love!" ”
It can be seen that the author himself understands very well that what she is writing about is actually the marriage of her parents, not the love of her parents.
In the original work, the marriage between Anjie and Jiang Defu, which is not a good match, stems from a good person
At that time, An Was born in Qingdao to a middle-class capitalist family. Anjie's father had a textile factory, a foreign car dealership, a washing and dyeing shop, a pharmacy and a small restaurant. On the eve of liberation, Anjie, a cold and cunning capitalist father, swept away all the gold and silver and sold all the other property in the family that could be sold, and fled to Taiwan with money and his little wife and a pair of children born to his little wife.
Anjie's mother could not withstand such a ruthless blow, less than half a year in the midst of grief and anger died of illness, leaving anjie Antai Anxin three brothers and sisters, the three of them, although they reached the legal age of inheritance, but did not inherit anything, fortunately, the three brothers and sisters were also blessed by misfortune, in terms of composition, they were not transformed into capitalists, but into small urban owners, which can be said to be a blessing in misfortune.
Anjie worked as an accountant in her own public-private pharmacy, a female comrade of the Municipal Health Bureau came to the pharmacy to check the work, she took a look at the beautiful and dignified Anjie, took Anjie's hand and asked long questions and short questions, inquired in detail about Anjie's background, and within a few days, this female comrade came to find Anjie again, and informed Anjie of Jiang Defu's details.
Anjie, who was still in the age of ignorance, brought home the news and told his sister and brother, who were overjoyed, because the composition of their family was really terrible, Antai's father-in-law was a bully landlord, Andheen's in-laws were high-component capitalists, and they urgently needed people in Jiang Defu's position to be bold and brave.
This matter, for the An family, is undoubtedly a good thing to drop the pie in the sky, but Anjie is not happy, Jiang Defu and Anjie met for the first time, they took the car, half an hour late, Anjie disgusted Jiang Defu sat on the station's dullness and ingenuity, and then found Jiang Defu's sludge hidden in the fingernail slit.
When the blind date returned home, Anjie's heart was half cold, and she complained to her sister: "Look at his countryman!" Listening to him, it is estimated that he did not even know a hundred words, and the hero's pen, inserted in his pocket, was ruined! ”
Anjie was reluctant and would marry
After the blind date, Anjie turned a blind eye to Jiang Defu's courtesy and was unusually cold, but Jiang Defu was impressed by Anjie's beauty and temperament, and the more Anjie was cold to him, the more Jiang Defu couldn't stop.
Jiang Defu is hard to go in and out of Anjia frequently, Anjie is always cold, but Antai and Anxin, but behind the back gave Jiang Defu unlimited support and courage, in this battle, Jiang Defu Antai Anxin faction, Anjie is a lone soldier, outnumbered, Anjie helpless to surrender.
Anjie, who married with an unwilling and aggrieved mentality, was always sad, even though Anjie gave birth to seven children in one breath after marriage, But Anjie did not have the happiness and sense of responsibility of being a wife and mother.
The author recalls that as a child, "our mother's big, piercing eyes always crossed the heads of the seven of our brothers and sisters and landed in a place of nothingness, as if there were another group of her children and another home." ”
"My mother always looked very annoyed with us, and she always lacked the patience that a mother should have for the endless demands and disputes of our seven little creatures. Most of the time she was frowning and listening to us, and before she could hear us, she would wave her hands impatiently and blast us away from her. ”
Not loving the man in front of you, even the children born to this man, are impatient, and life is repressed, depressed, and there is no joy in sight.
Impatient with the children, not to mention the attitude towards Jiang Defu, after marriage, Anjie put his spiritual sustenance on the title of the officer's wife, An Xin called him so, she was also half pushed and half used, and the attention gifts thrown by others made Anjie's vanity greatly satisfied, contributing to Jiang Defu's promotion, and it became a rare spiritual sustenance for Anjie.
However, for Jiang Defu himself, Anjie did not have the slightest patience and love, she hated all kinds of crude living habits brought by Jiang Defu's countryside, and the general climate in society at that time was to transform the capitalists, but in their home, Jiang Defu was transformed by the capitalist Anjie.
Anjie has never returned to Jiang Defu's hometown in his life, Ander's reason is, "It's not that I don't want to go back, I'm really afraid of lice in the countryside", Jiang Defu's eldest brother died, Jiang Defu took his eldest son back to the funeral, and only came back after ten days.
Jiang Defu went home in the dust, facing not Anjie's care and greetings, but Anjie who blocked the door with a cold face, Anjie did not let Jiang Defu enter the door with a look of disgust, so that he had to take a bath outside and change his clothes before he could come in, Jiang Defu's anger broke out instantly, and he no longer followed Anjie, ping-pong and kicked and exploded a water bottle, and squeezed into the door.
As for Jiang Defu's relatives from the countryside, Anjie did not have a good face, and sometimes Jiang Defu pleaded with Anjie: "Can't you smile at them?" Anjie said, "I really can't laugh!" ”
Therefore, Anjie's reputation in Jiang Defu's hometown is very poor, and when they mention Anjie, they are: "The fucking mother-in-law of the Third Uncle's family!" ”
After Anjie gets married, whether it is to the children, or Jiang Defu himself, or Jiang Defu's old family, all of them are a bored attitude, this is because Anjie in the marriage is unhappy and unhappy, such a mentality, let her become resentful, become self-pity.
Anjie erupted in anger
One day, Yan Ning accidentally saw a picture of a man in the shell of a book, the man looked handsome and handsome, and it seemed that he was definitely a promising young man with a superior birth and rich knowledge.
Yanin thought it was a spy, her imaginative mind, thinking that this was her mother's connector, and she was tormented in her heart, and secretly gave this photo to her father.
Jiang Defu's vinegar suddenly surged up, and he asked Anjie: "You didn't mention him when you talked to me, you said that you didn't talk about love, didn't talk about love?" So what's going on with this photo? ”
Anjie said, "You're so narrow-minded! You did the same with a photo sent by a male classmate, and how many years ago, when we weren't married, and we didn't even know each other. I can't explain it to you. You haven't been to school, you don't know what's going on with your classmates! Anjie's voice was cold.
Jiang Defu sneered, "I didn't go to school, and I don't know about the messy things you foreign students!" Anjie seemed to have been greatly insulted, at this time Jiang Defu asked her what the English behind the photo, MISS AN, what does it mean, Anjie over the years, in the marriage of unwillingness and grievances completely broke out!
Anjie's hysterical voice snapped, "Miss Ann! Miss Ann! Miss Ann! Miss Ann! Miss Ann! Miss Ann..."
When Anjie called out to Miss Ann, her voice became lower and lower, more hoarse, more and more sad, more and more miserable, and finally, she choked up.
Yan Ning felt that when her mother shouted out to Miss An, she clearly felt that her mother was calling out to herself, to the young herself in a floral cheongsam who had strolled through the streets of Qingdao twenty years ago. Misan! Miss Ann! The mother's voice penetrated the time and space of twenty years, calling Miss Ann, who had gone a long way, back, and she smiled at her aging mother who was in tears, and that smile was both clear and vague, both kind and sentimental, which made her mother's heart and lungs ache!
The description of this text can be seen that Anjie married Jiang Defu, although the material life after marriage is very good, but her spirit is very depressed and depressed, how much she misses the time when qingdao walked on the streets, the one wearing the floral cheongsam, how much resentment and pain and unwillingness she has for her current life.
Everyone envies the love of parents, in fact, hides Anjie's unforgettable sorrow, spiritually unequal marriage, even if the case is raised in a lifetime, but in the end it is still difficult to reconcile.