"Everyone has a heart for beauty"! Some girls become more and more beautiful after giving birth, not only maintaining their figure like girls, but some are ugly and old, why is this?
Petite is a good friend of mine, and the mother of a six-year-old boy and a three-year-old boy, she recently called me very distressed: "Please recommend me a good cosmetics, especially a good sunscreen, many friends have recently seen me, said that I am dark and old, it is really sad." 」
How can you age so quickly when you're just in your 30s? In her own words, the wrinkles on her face were all kept up late by her son. His face was blackened by eight degrees, because he always had to accompany his son to the park to plan the sand pit and become a "black old bag".
Jiaojiao said: "What is even more infuriating is that our colleagues all joke that I gave birth to a son, I was worried every day, I was worried about getting old, when people gave birth to daughters, my mothers were very young, I was like 10 years older than others, and it was sinful to have a son?" ”
Mothers who give birth to sons will be older, and such a statement does exist among many of our mothers. Why is there such a statement? It is also because there are some such phenomena around.
L mother with son is more tired, fatigue will accelerate the aging of women.
Previously, one of my neighbors had twin sons, and the two children were energetic. When they were a few months old, mom and grandma took the two children with them, and both of them ended up tired. Although the economy was tight, later, I also invited an aunt for a week. Even so, my mother often wore pain-relieving plasters on her wrists and waist, and people grew old very quickly.
Parents who have brought children have such an experience, and if it is with a girl, it is much easier than a boy. Boys are physiologically characteristical because they have more energy that is difficult to release. Therefore, taking the boy is more laborious and laborious, and it takes more energy, and it is inevitable that the mother will be tired.
Fatigue will accelerate the aging of people, the face is haggard, the hair is yellow, and the spirit is anxious. As a result, many parents with boys appear older.
Lack of sleep is also another important cause of aging.
Nowadays, women in the unit generally marry late and have children later, but walking on the street, we can still easily see which are mothers and which are people who are not married and have children. After giving birth, the vicissitudes on the face cannot be hidden, especially after giving birth to a naughty and energetic son.
After having a child, the mother should not think about getting a good night's sleep in a short period of time. The child is breastfeeding, we get up several times a night to feed him, every morning with a big dark circle, mentally weak, no matter how good the cosmetics can not enhance a person's spirit.
Even if the child does not breastfeed, the mother takes the child to sleep with, but also worry about the child kicking the quilt at night, afraid that the child will not sleep comfortably, and the result will be a significant decline in the quality of their sleep.
The economic pressure is relatively large, and it also makes the mother grow old fast.
Two million sons, what about two sons? The mother who gives birth to a boy has greater financial pressure, which is estimated that everyone agrees more. If you give birth to a girl, your mother still has the mood and economic strength, and will dress up well, but the mother who has given birth to a son, the most important thing to think about is how to make money to raise her son.
Therefore, most of the mothers who give birth to sons will be more frugal, reluctant to buy too expensive cosmetics, reluctant to always buy clothes to dress themselves, these external conditions, will also make the mother more old than their peers.
Giving birth to a son is so scary, what if everyone doesn't want to have a son? Boys and girls are the babies of mom and dad, and if you have a son, there are ways to help you easily take your son and raise your son to be very good.
Method 1: The Hawthorne effect – a mother giving her son a positive psychological cue.
The "Hawthorne effect", also known as the "cathartic effect", refers to a method of the Hawthorne factory in order to improve the work efficiency of workers, find a psychological counselor, and guide the workers to vent their inner dissatisfaction.
We often complain that boys are disobedient, but in fact, they have their own bitterness in their hearts. Moms should find the right time for their children to calm down and fully express their inner thoughts. We can also communicate our own views and ideas about children with children.
For example, before taking the child out, communicate with the child well, can not leave the mother's sight, otherwise the mother will be very worried, you should follow the mother, the mother believes that you can do it.
Method 2: Cultivate children's independence and release children's energy and physical strength.
Boys should be more independent, and many mothers are tired because managing their children is too fine, and too many things belong to the mother's unilateral arrangements. As a result, the child's independence is poor and the mother is tired.
Children eating, getting dressed, packing up toys, and even older children can help with housework at home can cultivate children's independence. Moreover, if the child's excessive energy is exhausted, he will no longer be so mischievous.
Boys with strong independence are also a major advantage for him, boys with strong independence are more responsible, will not rely too much on their parents, and become a responsible boy who is not afraid of setbacks.
Method three: The mother learns to look at her son with adoring eyes.
Excellent sons are exaggerated, and this is not false at all. When I need my son to help with things, I always find a suitable sentence or two to praise him first. For example, mopping the floor is too tired, mom is not as strong as you, please help me, okay? In general, children will be very willing to help. The mother often looks at her son with adoring eyes, and the son's self-confidence is bursting, and he will also strive to become the perfect appearance in the eyes of the mother. Therefore, it is also a good way for mothers to often "lie" to their sons.
The son is not a burden for the mother, as long as we educate the son well, he is your pride.