"Mom, can you give me 100 bucks?" Zhang Li's family had just come home from work when they saw their daughter running towards him, praying with red eyes and grievances.
Looking at his daughter's cautious and pitiful appearance, Zhang Li felt very uncomfortable in his heart, and he quickly asked his daughter what had happened. After the daughter's snot and a handful of tears, Zhang Li learned that when he was in school, his daughter's table often bullied himself because of a small matter, and the little tablemate said that if Zhang Li's daughter could give him 100 yuan, he would consider making friends with her in the future and not bullying her.
After listening to his daughter's narration, Zhang Li was both angry and angry in his heart. Zhang Li asked her daughter, "Nini, do you want to be friends with the same table?" Unexpectedly, my daughter replied, "I think, as long as I am friends with him, he will not bully me." ”
Zhang Li was shocked and quickly corrected the child's value concept of communication with people. It's good to make friends, but if you encounter such "poisonous friends", you must remember to stay away.
1. Bad friendship will destroy the child's correct concept of communication and destroy the child's sunny and healthy heart.
If the child is based on the concept of not wanting to be bullied by the other party, so he wants to make friends with the other party and associates with friends, then this will undoubtedly make the child a flattering personality. In a normal communication relationship, friends should respect each other and treat each other sincerely. If one of the parties is too strong to suppress the friend everywhere, it is distorted and unhealthy in this kind of communication relationship.
When the child is young, he is in a critical period of gradual improvement of self-knowledge, gradual improvement of world view, values, etc., and the character is also being well perfected, if at this stage, the child has pressure on interpersonal communication. Thinking that only by pleasing others well, others are willing to communicate with themselves, then the child's personality is also a promise, repeatedly tolerated.
This kind of situation of only considering others and not considering their own inner feelings is easy to destroy the sunshine and vitality that children themselves should have.
2. Bad friends can easily bring bad children's character.
The friendship between friends, in addition to affecting the communication ability of the whole person, will also have an impact on the character and way of doing things of the other party. Because children deal with such people for a long time, whether it is the other party's way of doing things or words and deeds, it will deeply affect the formation of children's values.
If the child's friend happens to be the kind of child who does not do the right thing, has bad conduct, and is morally corrupt, the impact on the child is undoubtedly enormous.
How to identify and teach children to stay away from poisonous friends? The key point in judging whether their friends are poisonous friends or not lies mainly in the following aspects, parents should detect early and intervene early.
1. In this friendship, the way two people get along is very different, and the child is not only often despised by friends, but also often hit by friends with words.
2. This friendship makes the child lose self-confidence in himself, and a good friendship makes people become positive, healthy, and upward, but this friendship often makes the child become in a bad mood, all kinds of depression, and even disgusted with himself.
3. Clearly feel that the other party's words, deeds, thoughts and morals are corrupt, which will profoundly affect the child's value formation and personality.
Because the child is still young, can not distinguish which are good friends, which are poisonous friends, so parents and friends must help children to distinguish, if you find that children in a certain friend relationship often suppress unhappy, parents should pay attention to it.
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