First of all, remember a sentence, break up and get along, it is always the heart!
The more entangled you are, the more hysterical, the more you will fall into the trap of emotions, I know that after the breakup, you care about him very much, you can't help but want to call him, send a message, and promise him that the places that were not done well before will change, and even the emotions will come up, and you will force the other party to break up, repeatedly emphasize his efforts to him, accuse him of not having a conscience sorry for you, and use threats to force the other party to continue to be with you.
But are these useful? He will not pay attention to you at all, and will even directly delete and block you under your repeated pestering.
Because the thinking of men and women is not the same, your purpose is to make him feel your reluctance, your love, and hope that he will change his mind, but what does the boy receive? He can't receive the love signal you send, he only receives the emotional pressure you release.
To put it this way, love is like a kite line in your hand, the tighter and harder you pull, the easier it is for the line to break. Of course, he is not really desperate, but he feels too much pressure and wants to catch his breath, and he is just deliberately telling you in a cold way: Don't put any more pressure on me.
Don't wait until the people you love are forced away to regret it, then it will be too late.
So what exactly can be done to get him back? First of all, you have to understand that men are different from women, they are born with a strong desire to conquer and initiative. When there is an object that makes his heart move, he will take the initiative to attack, so after the breakup, if you want him to turn back, all you have to do is become his heart object again and guide him to be interested in you, so how can you make him rekindle his interest in you?
Girls who know a lot of heavy feelings are easy to immerse themselves in the sadness after the breakup, and every day their minds are thinking about how to contact their boyfriends, meet their boyfriends, and convince their boyfriends.
But this state will not affect your life and health, has no effect on your feelings, remember, attraction depends on positive display, if you have been in a "negative and world-weary" state, even you hate yourself, how can you attract him to your heart?
So don't torture yourself with emotions, learn to self-extricate yourself, whether it is through food, shopping, or through other means, when you come out of the breakup and put yourself back into life with an optimistic attitude, you will let him see a different and attractive you.
You know? The reason why you don't get any response to your apologies and confessions is because his impression of you has been solidified, and he feels that even if you say it in a big way, you may not necessarily change it.
So the most important thing you should do now is to break his stereotype of you, and here is a saying with me: be a giant in action, not a dwarf.
If you want him to change your mind, you must really change yourself and let him know that you are really different. For example, if you used to have too much control, like to flip through his mobile phone, interfere with his social interaction, then now start, you must control your behavior, understand the progress and retreat; if it is a poor emotional control ability before, then learn how to be an emotionally stable person.
You have to understand that your changes are made for him to see, if you break off contact with him, how else will he have a chance to see your changes?
So don't blindly disconnect, but reduce the frequency of contact, while conveying your changes to him, at this stage must make good use of the circle of friends as a platform to establish a good social relationship.
Your change must not be hidden, but to pass on a better self to him through the circle of friends, let him marvel at your changes, and let him begin to regret the breakup! Don't worry about him not paying attention or worrying that he won't see, just like you will still pay attention to his dynamics, almost all boys will sneak a peek at their ex-girlfriend's circle of friends after a breakup.
Finally got it? Love is talked about, is the ultimate appearance of attraction, you don't have to worry about yourself have lost attraction to him, I said that attraction is something that will always exist, you change those bad habits derived from love, become better than before, how can he not be moved?
Don't forget that the girl who attracted him in the first place has always been you.
Psychological test: Test the sentence your ex most wants to say to you
1. Do you argue over small things when you're together?
Yes, I often feel tired —2
Rarely quarrel over small things—2
Occasionally, but soon reconciled —3
2. Do you think you are a person who likes to self-reflect and is willing to correct mistakes?
Yes —3
Not —4
3. Will he or she take the initiative to tell you his troubles?
It is often said that -5
Not much to say —4
4. Would you tell your parents about the process of your relationship?
Everything is too big or small, and I often complain to my parents -6
Occasionally they ask and say —5
Hardly to say, nothing to say —5
5. Faced with what you want, how much energy are you willing to put into acquiring it?
Everything follows fate, and it is mine in the end--7
Try hard, maybe you can succeed - 6
Do my best, I want to get --B
6. Did you break up because of a third party?
Yes—A
No —7
7. Did the other party take the initiative to contact you after the breakup?
Yes—D
No—C