Everyone from birth to experience more than ten years of learning, and then out of the campus into the society, is an essential experience, although there may be some students because of "not here", so choose to get off the bus, but the importance of learning is beyond doubt.
Each child's first teacher, believing that it must be his own parents, will subtly cause a deep impact in the child's growth process, many of which are bad influences, but as parents are unwilling to admit their faults.
In fact, the child's real education is not from kindergarten, but from birth to every skill taught to the child by the parents, every signal transmitted to the child, including learning to speak, eat, walk, etc., every link is very important.
But as the child grows up day by day, gradually going to kindergarten and then to primary school, parents withdraw from their children's education little by little, and gradually teach educational issues to the teachers of the school, but whether a student can become a talent is ultimately decided by the parents, especially boys.
How simple it is to "raise waste" a boy, parents often hang up 3 sentences
It may be that most boys are lively by nature, coupled with naughtiness, rebellion and other psychology, so that boys in the process of growing up, the probability of "raising waste" is much higher than that of girls, the reason for this result, many times is the parents inadvertently said the words.
Many times parents often hang on their lips, may become a knife into the child's heart, affecting their learning throughout the learning life, and doomed to make them difficult to become talented even in the future work and development process, including these "3 sentences".
"You've been like this all your life, what you can't do, what you eat is nothing left"
Most parents in the mainland are always accustomed to percussive education, not only stingy with their own praise and praise, but also often deny their sons, always thinking that as boys, they should take some blows, thinking that this can make boys resilient.
As everyone knows, this kind of saying once or twice is good, may really arouse the boy's fighting spirit in learning, if parents take these words as a mantra, often said in front of the child, will seriously hit the boy's self-esteem, causing them to gradually begin to accept failure.
"Look at how good your class xxx is, how I gave birth to you"
As a parent, there is also a very favorite thing to do, that is, to constantly compare their sons with other students in the class, which is what everyone calls comparison, not only the results are compared with each other, but anything can become the basis for parents to compare.
But there is no perfect person, and then, even if the boy is already very good, there will always be some shortcomings, so the parents will take the boy's shortcomings and always say: "Look at how good the xxx in your class is, how did I give birth to you!" ”
"Just know it will be like this, where can you go"
Then there is the parents' negative concept of education, always think that the son still has many deficiencies, afraid that because of a simple praise, the boy will be proud and affect the future development, I do not know that the good children in today's society are exaggerated.
Parents' previous educational concepts are no longer suitable for the growth of boys now, on the contrary, because parents blindly deny, the heart becomes more and more sensitive, and in the end, they really think that they are very bad, become at ease with the situation, and no longer subjectively want to become excellent.
What is the meaning of poverty in the so-called "poor child"?
1. Be diligent and thrifty, and have a correct concept of money
Parents in the growth process of boys, must guide boys to establish the correct three views, in addition, but also have the correct concept of money, and strive to be diligent and thrifty, to know that the boy's nature itself is not as careful as the girl's heart, and it is reasonable to be generous.
Therefore, the so-called "poor children" is not to require parents to provide a better material life for boys, but to let boys know that they should not be stingy when spending money, and they should try to avoid some unnecessary expenditures, and gradually develop good habits of financial management.
2, people are not poor
What kind of family environment a boy was born in, is not his own choice, but the boy can get the success he wants through his own efforts, this is what every boy should do, just so-called: people are not poor.
Society gives boys a lot of important responsibilities, at the same time, the requirements for boys themselves are higher than those of girls, and parents cannot always stand in the "perspective of God" to force a boy to become what kind of person he must become, and everyone has their own way of life.
summary:
Parents are the first teacher in each child's life, but also the teacher who has the greatest influence on the child, the parent's educational concept, will always subtly affect the child's future development, parental encouragement and support, in order to make the child more and more confident.
Therefore, if parents want to make their children talented, they must first be good enough to strive to become a role model for their children's efforts, so that children can clearly understand the responsibility that should be borne at each stage in the process of continuous learning, after all, the future life is their own.
Today's topic: Have you ever heard your parents say these "3 sentences"? What kind of impact has it had on you?