Author/Pond Fish
In the evening, a friend and I sighed like this, she thinks that when people are old, their daughters are more reliable than their sons, and they are more filial and caring.
She has this feeling, because the situation in her family is that her grandparents have 5 children, including 2 sons and 3 daughters, grandpa can basically be said to be a son over a lifetime, no matter what is considered and planned for the son, what is directly said to be left to the son later, the result is now older, in the matter of pension, basically 3 daughters are responsible, the son can be said to be not how to manage, a little bit of work, began to compare, the face is thicker than the city wall, said there is no effect.
Nowadays, seeing such a contrast, as a junior, she cannot be indifferent, that is, she feels that her grandparents are not worth it in this life, and they have paid everything for their son, and as a result, they are really old and cannot move, but their son has shirked part of the responsibility that originally belonged to him.
Therefore, she believes that in general, daughters are more reliable than sons. Because of a similar phenomenon, a good friend she knew also happened at home, and her son rushed to the front when it was beneficial to divide things, but once he began to take responsibility, he kept retreating, eager to become an invisible person.
After people get old, is the son filial piety or the daughter more filial piety, I always see a lot of people, once discussed this topic, of course, standing in different positions, there are always different answers, there are certainly some people who say that the son is more filial piety, and can say the corresponding phenomenon, but at the same time, there will definitely be people who stand up and say that the daughter is more filial piety, and if you want to find examples in this kind of life, you may also grab a lot.
Therefore, on this issue, in fact, it cannot be discussed in this way at the beginning.
Whether it is a son or a daughter, first of all, they cannot avoid human nature.
Human nature is like this, there are good and bad, different people, there are different morals and three views, the same reason in the face of some of the same things, there will be completely different practices.
Once, listening to an 82-year-old man, said something like this.
He said: "At this age, I found that in fact, sons or daughters are the same, filial piety children are always filial piety, and children who are not filial piety cannot force themselves at this age." The most important thing is that what kind of person the child grows into is to a large extent inseparable from the education of the parents, if you teach the child poorly, no matter how many children are in vain, they will only add to your blockage. On the contrary, if the child is well taught, then after reaching a certain age, he may be able to profit. ”
The old man has 4 children in this life, the overall filial piety, the people around them praise the good fate of the two old people, after the old children basically come to visit every day, the family is very lively, at any time can feel the warmth of family affection.
After people get old, loneliness is always inevitable, so those who can have more companionship, the hope of life is always there. Many times, when people reach a certain age, the requirements for material aspects will be correspondingly lower and lower, living is to live a hope and thought, and what they want is a warmth and liveliness.
Of course, when you are young, these things may not be important, because you can easily get anything, so the bustle or loneliness at this time is just a personal choice, when you are young, you have a lot of choices, but when you are old, you don't necessarily have to make a choice.
Therefore, you may always be able to see some people in life, when they are young, they say that they do not rely on anyone, but when they really go to a certain age in life, they will still have the most primitive expectations and fantasies. Family affection is a bond that most people cannot get rid of in this life, and the older they get, the more so.
Because of this, in the hearts of many elderly people, they will always regard the filial piety of children, the fact that they can often come back to see, and so on, as a blessing in life, and the most important thing.
Only at this age, many old people will find that whether it is a son or a daughter, the real reliability is never a given gender, but how the child's own thinking.
Some elderly people, who may think that they have children when they are young, will definitely be absolutely guaranteed when they are old, but when they really go to the stage of needing children to feed back, they find that children are more indifferent than one, one is more selfish than one, and they don't want to care about themselves, regard themselves as a burden, and just want to get rid of it.
At this time, the elderly often have no right to speak, because they do not have the capital to speak for themselves, after all, at this time they can no longer be the party who provides benefits, but hope to be able to obtain some benefits from their children. Not all children are reliable and filial at this time.
But there is definitely one objective point: the thinking of children when they grow up, in the attitude towards their parents, are closely related to the education of their children when they are young, the three views transmitted, and their own practices of facing the same things, which have a certain impact on children in a subtle way.
Therefore, for children, what kind of person they can eventually grow into, there is not an absolutely fixed answer at first, do not ignore the details of life, some of the influence brought by the long growth years.
Returning to the above question, it is not that the son is more filial, nor is the daughter more filial, but most importantly, whether the child's character and three views are correct.
If a person just keeps having children, but does not raise them well and does not lead by example, it is like sowing a seed in the field at random, never managing and fertilizing, only hoping that after a few years, he can enjoy the rich fruit, just thinking about it knows that this thing is not so reliable. In the process of seed growth, there are many places that also need to participate in their own participation, and the probability of finally getting what they want will definitely increase greatly.
This point must not be ignored.
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