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Liang Xinyi is the only daughter in the family, since she was a child, her mother has taken care of her very carefully, when she was young, even because she was relatively weak, her mother took off her salary and stayed at home to take care of her for a few years, and after she went to school, in order to give her a better life, she re-emerged from the workplace, so the mother in the whole family paid a lot.
When Liang Xinyi got married, her mother said that in the future, you have to live by yourself, and your mother will not help with the children, because her mother wants to live for herself, and when I retire, I will have to learn to dance well, and I will travel.
As a result, Liang Xinyi was pregnant with twins, and in the third trimester of pregnancy, because the pressure of the fetus could not eat, but also often vomited, the doctor let her eat more, otherwise the fetus did not grow up, and she obviously could not eat, but desperately stuffed into the stomach, the mother once came to see the daughter, found that the daughter suffered like this, the heart was very painful, while walking while wiping tears, the 2nd day the mother made an application for early retirement to the unit, and after two days packed her luggage to Liang Xinyi's home to take care of the daughter in the third trimester.
After the twins were born, Grandma also came to take care of her for a while, but Grandma and Liang Xinyi's parenting concept was not the same, the child returned to her home after just three months, and the twins were left to Liang Xinyue and her mother to take care of.
The father of the twins is very filial, every weekend will take the twins back to the grandmother's house, and the grandmother is very happy to see the two children come back, so they buy the children a variety of food and drink to play, so the children especially like to go to the grandmother's house.
Later, when the twins went to kindergarten, Grandma went back to her own home, and usually went to Grandma's house on weekends, only occasionally returning to Grandma's house during the New Year's Festival.
Back to grandma's house, grandma is still very strict with the child, can not eat too many snacks, eat can not talk, to eat the meal, so slowly the child is not willing to go to the grandmother's house, all day long want to go to the grandmother's house, because go to the grandmother's house can eat what you want, and want to buy what toys to buy.
Usually, when Liang Xinyi and her mother video, she called two children to call Grandma, and as a result, the two children called Grandma and ran away, and they were not willing to talk to Grandma more!
Liang Xinyi feels very sad, often tell the child that when he was a child, he was a grandmother who urinated a handful of, brought you up, and now you have to be filial to the grandmother, and Liang Xinyi often nags with the child like this, but the child is more disgusted and more reluctant to go to the grandmother's house!
Liang Xinyi felt very sorry for his mother in his heart, he complained in the girlfriend group, he did not expect that there were many girlfriends who had such an experience, many girlfriends said that when the child was small, he was also brought up by his mother, but the child preferred to go to the grandmother's house.
Why did the grandmother bring up from the child, but the child liked the grandmother more! The reason is heartbreaking
Reason one: The grandmother is distressed about her daughter, so she educates her children more severely
Young people teach children not only to love children, but also to teach children rules, and when grandma helps mothers with children, they will also follow the various principles stipulated by mothers to educate children, which will be more severe.
Grandma does not often see children because she does not bring children, and when she sees children, she buys all kinds of large bags and small bags, fun and delicious, which will make children feel that Grandma loves herself.
In the child's little mind, he felt that whoever gave me good food and fun loved me, so he felt that grandma loved himself more.
Reason two: Children are influenced by their fathers and often go to their grandmother's house
Children are generally with the father's surname, every weekend will follow the father to the grandmother's house, the child every time to the grandmother's home is also warmly welcomed, and the grandmother will also spoil the child in various ways, because the father does not have much experience in raising children, how the grandmother spoils him does not matter!
Children have to eat and play, naturally feel that Grandma's house is more fun, naturally feel that Grandma likes herself more.
Reason three: from the title can be distinguished between relatives and estrangement
For example, if a mother's mother calls grandma to have an "outside" word, dad's mom will be closer to grandma.
If the grandmother's family and the children born to the uncle will be called younger siblings, and the mother's family has an uncle, the birth of a child called the cousin cousin can distinguish the closeness, adults intentionally or unintentionally will also instill such kinship in the child, will let the child know that he is closer to the grandmother.
Therefore, the grandmother takes the child because she loves her nephew, but also because she is worried about her daughter, and the grandmother must also be mentally prepared, and the child may be closer to the grandmother when she grows up.
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