"Heart Dwelling" - My heart is at peace with my home.
Yesterday, I was chatting with a friend, and she asked me if I had recently watched "Heart Residence"?
I said look.
She spread her arms on the back of the sofa, leaned back, looked up at the ceiling and sighed, and then said slowly:
"How many women have dreamed of living like Gu Qingyu, with a career of several millions per year, a mother's self-reliance, and the first love of Qingmei Bamboo Horse,"
After a pause, she continued:
"But I never expected that most people ended up living as a woman like Feng Xiaoqin, exhausted for the sake of chai rice oil and salt, and even having to drill marriages for their livelihoods!"
When she finished, she tilted her head and didn't move, like a sculpture.
Suddenly, the sound of whose piano floated outside the window was a soft and slightly sad song "The Wind That Stays for You". The music wrapped around the words of the friend just now, which made people fall into contemplation in an instant.
Live as Gu Qingyu.
Gu Qingyu, the role played by the nursery rhyme, appeared in "Heart Residence", which is a dazzling female elite.
Bright and elegant professional wear, a shawl straight hair, a project commission is several million. Moreover, she works effortlessly, without a difficult boss, on the contrary, the boss even has a bit of a flattering instrument to her.
The competitor is her own master, who wants to cooperate, and she can directly refuse, but win the trust of the master without any doubt.
There is no overtime work with a split head and a face, and you can often go home to cook for your father and grandmother, and you can also have a meeting with your lover at noon.
Even if he returns to his mother's house, Gu Qingyu is still in the spotlight. Family meetings that are not allowed to be attended by the sister-in-law can be held again and again, and the marriage of the younger brother can be swayed, and even the rest of the family seems to listen to her.
Even if there are two elderly people in the mother's family who need to be taken care of, Gu Qingyu, who is not yet married, will not be dragged down, because her sister-in-law takes care of all the chores of taking care of the family's living.
In love, that's not to mention. There is a crush of more than 10 years, Zhan Xiang, and a first love Shi Yuan.
I remember in "Know It or Not", Mrs. Sheng told Minglan before she got married, telling her that a woman should live comfortably in this life, first of all, she must have money in her hands, and secondly, she must have a confidant.
It seems that Gu Qingyu, these two conditions have been satisfied.
In a place like Shanghai, where there is little money, it is said that buying a second house in a high-end residential area can be done immediately, because
Gu Qingyu has money.
However, to be precise, there are special profitable businesses.
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Gu Qingyu has a confidant,
It's about spreading. When Gu Qingyu was in a bad mood, it was Zhan Xiang who comforted her and accompanied her to drink and chat.
Even after she proposed to Shi Yuan and was rejected, it was Zhan Xiang who helped her come up with ideas to discover Shi Yuan's true heart. As a result, the two of them rushed to get a license and enjoyed the joy of the new marriage, while Zhan Xiang left silently, healing at home.
In the end, Minglan became the envy of everyone in "Knowing or Not", and Gu Qingyu became the dream of many women in "Heart Residence".
Live as Feng Xiaoqin.
However, reality clearly makes people understand that when the dream lands, most people will eventually find that they have finally become an ordinary woman with fireworks, and even like Feng Xiaoqin, they are constantly running for their livelihood.
Feng Xiaoqin came to Shanghai from a small place, did not have a high education, did not have the support of family background, and could only work hard from the most grass-roots posts.
She has always dreamed that she will work hard in Shanghai, have her own house, her sister will find a good job, and then take her parents over, and the family will live a good life together.
However, life is so easy for people to realize their dreams, especially for Feng Xiaoqin.
Therefore, Feng Xiaoqin found Gu Lei as a husband, although he knew that he was spoiled by the family, had no responsibility, no opinion, and no self-motivation.
If you can't figure love, just figure him is a Shanghainese.
Remember in "All Is Good", Su Daqiang wanted to marry the young nanny Cai Genhua, Mingyu and the eldest brother persuaded him not to move, Su Mingzhe stopped him and lost a sentence:
"You say that people marry you and don't want anything, that's because you're older?" Figure you don't take a bath? ”
This is a little rough, but the reason is very clear.
When two people get married, either the picture is love, or it is something other than love. Saying nothing is actually a lie, and they feel that what they want is just and deserved, so it is not covetous.
Because the world always believes that love is priceless and precious, and materials other than love are valued by people with bad hearts.
Therefore, in Gu Qingyu's eyes, Feng Xiaoqin and Gu Lei got married, and the purpose was not pure at the beginning, and she posted her brother for the sake of the Shanghai hukou.
Therefore, even if Feng Xiaoqin after marriage pays in the Gu family like a nanny, she circles around the family for eight years. Serving the 80-year-old Mrs. Gu and the father of Gu, who is more than half a hundred years old, taking care of the children and supervising her husband, she has never picked a son.
The eldest sister-in-law, Gu Qingyu, still looked down on her.
When Feng Xiaoqin wanted to buy a house with Gu Lei, Gu Qingyu asked his father as soon as he opened his mouth, Feng Xiaoqin is gone, who will take care of the Gu family's big son?
Doesn't that look like the situation of a lot of stay-at-home moms?
When you don't go to work, your mother-in-law says you're lazy and tired of his son earning money alone to support his family. If you go to work and say that your son and grandson don't even have a hot mouth when they come home, the child's poor learning is also because you don't care.
Later, Gu Lei's death was an accident, but the husband's family put the responsibility on Feng Xiaoqin's body.
In order not to be looked down upon by the Gu family and feel that she is a woman who is greedy for money, Feng Xiaoqin runs takeaways to support herself and her son, and also takes care of the two elders of the Gu family. In order not to let customers give bad reviews, climb 20 floors of stairs to deliver meals, because a bad review will be deducted 50 yuan.
Hit by a car on the road, fell on their backs, and the first thing they struggled to do was to ride an electric car and quickly deliver the takeaway to the customer.
When I came home at night, I dragged my body tired, but I saw that my son's exam paper was a mess, and the results fell a lot. Feng Xiaoqin reprimanded, and trained to collapse and cry...
Is there a familiar feeling?
Confined to the family has no career, marriage does not necessarily have love, the family may not be running very well, in order to go in the wind and rain for three meals a day, the children are mad, and they are disliked by their relatives...
Perhaps around us, we can often see such a shadow, hear similar voices, see many women, and eventually live like Feng Xiaoqin.
Living to be yourself is the most important thing.
"I have to go!" My friend suddenly jumped up from the couch and slapped me, saying that there was an urgent matter to be done, and my thoughts stopped abruptly.
Sending her away, standing in front of the window and looking out, the dark night was quiet and peaceful, I thought of Gu Qingyu and Feng Xiaoqin again:
I hate Gu Qingyu's shrewdness in making Zhan Xiang a spare tire, but I also appreciate her independent self-confidence in working hard for her career; I don't like that Feng Xiaoqin wants to rely on others to change her life, wants to help her younger siblings but constantly harasses the Gu family, but also affirms her kindness, delivers meals for the elderly living alone, and risks the fire to snatch out a diary for Mrs. Zhang...
Whether it is Gu Qingyu, a high-quality single woman with an annual salary of one million, or Feng Xiaoqin, a housewife who finally lives for 50 yuan, in fact, it is not important to think about it carefully, and it is the most important thing to be able to live this life in your own way and live your own appearance.