In fact, as parents, our greatest hope is to make our children become filial, not white-eyed wolves. But sometimes children are likely to be raised by us to become white-eyed wolves, especially in families with many children, and this child will often become a white-eyed wolf.
Mr. Wang has two children in his family, the eldest son is now 15 years old, and the second son is now only 7 years old. Mr. Wang felt that the younger son's age was too young, so he would put all his energy into the younger son. The eldest son is basically in a state of free range, so Mr. Zhang will not pay too much to the eldest son. However, recently, because of the emergence of this matter, Mr. Wang has some insight into his second son.
On this day, Mr. Wang bought a lot of snacks and brought them to the house, and he wanted to let the two children share these snacks. Unexpectedly, at this time, the youngest son actually did something that everyone did not expect. I saw the younger son put all the snacks in his pocket, and then scolded and grinned: "These things are all mine, you are not allowed to grab them with me!" ”
Mr. Wang suddenly felt very angry, so he said to his younger son: "Can't Dad eat snacks?" The younger son said, "Why are you grabbing snacks with me?" I don't say yes! "Obviously, these things were bought by Mr. Wang, but everything was occupied by the younger son."
The eldest son, on the other hand, was very transparent when he looked at this matter, and he did not rob his brother of things. Mr. Wang didn't understand why he was so good to his younger son, but his younger son became a white-eyed wolf? And the eldest son is so reasonable?
In fact, this is a very simple status quo, in the multi-child family, children are often the most likely to become white-eyed wolves, so parents must leave a good way out.
Why does the youngest child become a white-eyed wolf?
This problem arises because parents tend to treat their children unfairly. There are many parents who feel that there is no need to put all their energy into Dabao's body, because Dabao's age is relatively old, so they are often sensible and obedient. Therefore, these parents will devote most of their energy to the children, and they also like to spend more time on the children.
But the more this happens, the easier it is to coddle these little children, these children will become lawless, blind, and even become particularly selfish, plus they have gained a lot of priority privileges in life, so they always like to put themselves first, never thinking about their parents' feelings. It is precisely because of the existence of this problem that these youngest children have become white-eyed wolves.
So how do you avoid children from becoming white-eyed wolves?
If we really want to solve this problem, then our best practice is not to spoil the child too much. Some parents have done a very wrong thing, that is, they are always used to their children, in fact, such a practice is not good for the child, because this practice will only make the child a selfish person who has no one in sight.
So there is no need for us to give our children priority privileges, we should make them aware of fairness, especially when there are multiple children in the family, and fairness will be very important. If we can't do this well, then the child will most likely become a white-eyed wolf.
In daily life, we also need to let children pay more, because only in this way can children realize what is real responsibility. For example, we don't have to be so strong in front of our children, we need to let our children do something for us.
For example, asking them to help us clean the table, or asking them to help us clean up the housework, although these things are relatively small, but it can also be seen whether the child is willing to pay for the family. If they don't want to do this little thing, then they must be white-eyed wolves.
In addition, we should not do everything for our children, because such an approach is not good for the growth of children. There are some things we need to let our children do themselves, and while they may not be doing as well as they think, we also need to get them hands-on and let them solve problems in their own way.
Don't get used to children, don't do everything for your children, you must constantly exercise your children, so that you can make your children stronger, more filial piety, and more sensible.
So it's not difficult to make a child a good person, but we must avoid making a child a white-eyed wolf. Therefore we should educate them in a more correct way, and only in this way can we make them a better child. If we can't do this, then we're going to fail.