After Gu Wei and Lin Zhixue confessed to each other, Gao Huan cried and asked Gu Wei why he chose Lin Zhixue instead of her, so Gu Wei had a very classic rejection line:
"My parents really like you, and have told me more than once, let's get together, let's get together, I once tried to think about what would happen if we were going to be together, but I immediately dismissed this idea, we really don't fit, we are too similar don't you think, I really don't want to come home after a day of work, I have to face another self, but also keep discussing work, to discuss the future, you to me, really just a friend, that's all." 」
I like Gu Wei, who is so crisp and clean, without dragging mud and water, this rejection is also quite earnest and true, so that people can't find half a reason to refute it. But if you think about it, is Gu Wei's rejection of Gao Huan really just because "she is another self"?
This is not the case.
Let's first think about what Gao Hun and Lin Zhixiao were like when they got along with Gu Wei.
Gao Huan talked to Gu Wei, in addition to talking about work, it was basically a very strong tone, such as how you should be, there is no benefit to you doing this, and so on. Maybe she didn't want to discipline Gu Wei in her heart, but if she listened to such words in a man's ear, there would be an instinctive rebellion, and he would feel that he was being controlled.
On the other hand, looking at Lin Zhixue, she and Gu Wei got along, she already had a mentality that was close to worship, and the tone would naturally be much softer, even when her mouth was hard, it would at most make people feel that they were gambling and throwing a temper, rather than condescending discipline. This puts both parties in a reciprocal position that doesn't make the other person feel pressured to flee.
Therefore, Gao Huan said that she and Gu Wei had known each other for so long and experienced so many important moments in their lives together, and Gu Wei and Lin Zhixue had only known each other for half a year, and this was the problem. The longer they knew each other and the more they got along, the more Gu Wei would feel suppressed when he got along with her.
There is also such a detail in the play, that is, Gu Wei wants to move out to live, his parents do not agree, so they find Gao Huan to discuss countermeasures, and Gao Huan gives them ideas to secretly rent his house to Gu Wei.
What does this detail illustrate? We can imagine that if in the process of renting a house, Gu Wei did not find that it was Gao Huan's house, and really moved in? That is undoubtedly equivalent to entering another "cage" from one "cage".
For a man, if he is managed by his parents every day at home, finds a wife and manages him like his parents, how do you think he will feel? And the feeling that Gao Huan gave him was exactly the same as the feeling that his parents gave him, so even without Lin Zhixue, Gu Wei could not choose Gao Huan.
On the other hand, Gao Hun is far from being as simple as Lin Zhixue.
Gao Huan, how to say it, on the issue of major right and wrong, the three views are positive, but in the face of love, it is inevitable that there will be a little jealousy and careful thinking, that is, to give people a feeling of doing small actions in private, which is easy to annoy people.
For example, Lin Zhixue gave her a ticket for the concert, she guessed that she would also give Gu Wei, so she offered to bring it to Gu Wei; she saw lin zhixue holding Gu Wei's water cup, so she questioned her and asked Lin Zhixue to go first and give her the water cup. Clear-eyed people could see that she just wanted to prevent Lin Zhixue from contacting Gu Wei, and by the way, create an opportunity for herself to get along with Gu Wei.
There is also that whether she is in front of Gu Wei's parents or in front of her colleagues, everyone jokes about her and Gu Wei and asks them when they will get married, she is acquiescing, such a performance, it seems that she is very eager for everyone to have such a misunderstanding, and then misunderstand more, this matter has become the same as the truth.
Compared with her, Lin Zhixue was simply like a blank piece of paper, Gao Huan took away the ticket she gave to Gu Wei, until Gu Wei appeared at her concert, she did not think that Gu Wei was coming for her; Gao Huan did not let her send Gu Wei a cup of water, she really hid on the roof alone and waited silently; others joked about Gu Wei and Gao Huan, and she really sent them blessings.
You see, such two people are in front of you, and the result is obvious.
No matter what kind of man, no matter what age the man is in, you let him choose a career partner, he will choose a mature and thoughtful, but if he chooses a life partner, he will inevitably choose a more simple one. You think, it is not easy for men to work hard outside, who wants to go home and have to deal with the careful thinking of their wives?
Love, half by fate, half by yourself.
Many people have asked the question: Is it more appropriate to find someone who is similar to themselves or someone who is complementary? Some people feel that similar people have more common topics, and some people feel that complementary people are more able to play to their strengths and avoid weaknesses.
But in fact, there is no fixed standard for this.
Just like Gu Wei and Gao Huan, the two of them are so similar, so similar that Gu Wei feels that if he marries Gao Huan, it will be like facing another self when he returns home. But suppose that Gao Hun is only similar to Gu Wei in career, but his personality is more like Lin Zhixue? Will Gu Wei still be unwilling to marry her?
Love is inseparable from fate, but you can't rely only on fate, in the final analysis, it depends on what kind of person you are, whether a person like you just meets his expectations and can attract his attention.
Gao Huan had known Gu Wei a long time ago, indicating that what they lacked was not fate, Gu Wei did not choose her, although there was a factor that they were too similar, but in the final analysis, it was because Gao Wei's own personality could not attract Gu Wei.
Lin Zhixue and Gu Wei did not know each other for a long time, but the two people were attracted to each other and had feelings for each other, but if there was no opportunity for Teacher Lin to be sick, they might not have known each other in this life, nor would they come together.
Therefore, love, fate is very important, and what kind of person you are is also very important. I remember seeing the saying somewhere: "If you want to find a good lover, then you have to become a good self first." ”
I think so. I hope you can understand it too.
You need to remember that love cannot be forced, he chooses you, or does not choose you, only depends on whether such a person you attract such a him, good love, can make you a better self, good self can also promote better love.
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