Although the cold violence in love does not hurt the other party like physical violence, in essence, it will bring aggression and harm to the other party's spirit and psychology, and such harm is definitely not inferior to physical violence, or even more terrible.
First, how terrible is cold violence
Most people with cold violence have a tendency to be withdrawn or have a strong sense of inferiority, a strong sense of self-protection, they encounter difficulties, always think of using time to consume everything, and use cold violence to solve these problems.
If you are with a person every day, repeating the same thing every day, and spending a fresh period, you will lose your passion. Slowly you will become mutually controlling and disgusting, and then the other party will always think about how to get rid of this spiritual bondage of yours and give yourself an ideal space. When encountering problems, they are accustomed to solving them with cold violence.
The most common form is to always think of escaping when encountering problems, not to argue head-on; Choose to be silent and ignore your presence, choose to accumulate all the problems, and don't want to put more energy into dealing with these emotional problems.
Problems can also cause irreparable damage to the other party over time!
Second, how to solve the cold violence in love
Although the cold violence in love is sometimes not caused by human intention, but a subconscious behavior, it may be a habit that has a little connection with the original family when you are a child, and over time, you will subconsciously react to the action when you encounter something similar. It's like throwing a tantrum with your parents, ignoring them, waiting for your parents to find out and coax you. So at this time you can sit down and talk to the object well, cold treatment will make you feel very uncomfortable inside, I hope that there is a contradiction can be said, and both sides can solve it together.
There is also a situation that when you plan the future of the other party, and the other party's future without you, long-term in this state, will make you begin to rely on the other party, but your behavior, in the eyes of the other party, is a kind of deformed pressure. So in order to escape this pressure, the other party will choose to treat you with cold violence.
This forces you to choose to break up with yourself, because then the other party can evade responsibility and blame all the problems on you.
Therefore, when encountering a cold and violent breakup in love: first of all, we must balance our mentality, and we cannot open our mouths when communicating is the angry tone of questioning and accusation.
Instead, it is necessary to calm your mood, stand in a neutral position, not only analyze your own shortcomings, but also show a better way to deal with it, so that the other party feels that you are sincere and want to solve this problem.
Then you must also take the initiative to keep a distance from the other party, so that the other party has a feeling of not being able to control you, only in this way, the other party will feel that the feeling of controlling feelings before is an illusion.
In order to confirm this matter, the other party will take the initiative to lift the cold violence.