This is the feeling written by a young daughter, but it shocked all parents!
My parents made an important decision
My parents did a lot for me, and what touched me the most was their refusal to help me with my children.
Growing up, my parents doted on me almost outrageously. Until one day, they made a solemn decision to shake me awake from decades of princess dreams.
My child was born, but I was terrified
I was 38 weeks pregnant, and one very unusual night, my mother suddenly called me and my husband into the room and announced without leaving any room:
Your father and I decided to stop helping you when you were out of the confinement, and we both wanted to walk around and live wherever we liked. As for the children, we are old, the body can not eat, you are the parents of the child, just think of your own way.
Hearing this bad news without mental preparation, it took me days to believe it was true. Then I fell into a deep fear, the fear of a pampered house bird knowing that he was going to be exiled.
My mother-in-law died early, my father-in-law was seriously ill, my husband's parents could not count on it at all, and I did not expect that at the moment when I needed help the most in my life, my parents who hurt me so much did not care about me.
During that time, I complained to people, "If I can travel everywhere, I just won't help me" "So selfish, isn't this forcing me to stay full-time, who has such a daughter..."
My child was born out of my utter fear.
Maybe I'm the most selfish person in the world
Throughout the month, I hardly showed a smile, because of the gambling, I insisted on taking my own children from morning to night.
The pain of cracked nipples, the shit of the newborn, the irritability of lack of sleep, I originally wanted to exhaust myself in this almost masochistic way to make my parents blame themselves, but I was tired and tired, but I inexplicably woke up.
I soberly asked myself: What are you afraid of? Fear takes on the responsibilities that a mother should bear, and does fear become a mother in the true sense of the word? What are you complaining about?
Parents don't have any obligation to help you with your children, they have never thought to take it in their lives, but you have remembered the only decision they made for themselves in this life. You, who have never thought about how to give, are the most selfish person in the world.
Many unexpected things happened...
I applied to the employer for an extension of maternity leave and began a one-year stay-at-home mom life. During this year, I rediscovered myself and discovered many unexpected abilities in myself.
In the past, my work and rest habits were very poor, because no one helped with the children, I slept at 9 o'clock at night and got up at 6 o'clock in the morning, and the quality of sleep was greatly improved, and I no longer had to worry about the spring and autumn.
In the past, I had a serious procrastination, because no one helped with the children, and I had to hurry up and wait for the children to go to sleep to do the daily chores, and I was born with an unprecedented efficiency.
In the past, I was lazy, until I was full-time with children, in order not to disconnect myself from society, I saw stitches and needles to endorse the questions, and passed the intermediate editing title that was of great significance to my career.
In the past, I used to think that my mother was making a big fuss, until I brought a child alone, and my son's little cold became my top priority, because I knew that the people who could help might not be able to catch up for a while and a half.
Once upon a time, I used to think that my father was walking slowly, until I took the child myself, and over and over again, I lifted my son who was shaking and learning to walk from the ground.
I never thought about what my parents did for me until I raised the children myself...
Feelings after that time
Although I have re-entered the society, the huge energy brought to me by that time is more than the sum of my previous lives, and I still release scorching positive energy on my parenting path to this day.
My parents have done a lot for me, but what touched me the most was their refusal to help me with my children. Their decision made me grow into an adult, an adult who dared to meet difficulties, dared to admit mistakes, and dared to take responsibility for problems.
As parents, we really should let go of it appropriately
As parents, our appropriate and timely withdrawal is also a kind of love. On the one hand, children have grown up, they need to face life on their own, we can't take care of them for a lifetime, and properly exiting is also to create free space for them.
On the other hand, we have worked hard all our lives, and we really should enjoy our lives, so let's take advantage of the time when our hands and feet are flexible and our bodies are still healthy, live our own tone, and enjoy every day.
Of course, a proper withdrawal and a proper letting go do not mean that you will no longer participate in the lives of your children, but only that you will keep a certain distance. We have our own lives, our children have their own space, and we can help appropriately when we have difficulties, but don't make a big deal out of it.
After reading this article, I can't help but have tears in my eyes, the choice of this parent makes me envious, and the daughter's understanding is also gratifying.
It's really too good to say, it seems to be the real thoughts of many elderly Chinese parents, and I am deeply touched! Remember to read it to your friends!
(Picture and text from the Internet, with picture: painter "Sister and Me" works)