Text/Little Snow Mom
After giving birth to a child confinement, it has always been a tradition in our country, in the past, confinement was mostly taken care of by mother-in-law, and now there are many mothers and families to help take care of confinement.
However, with the improvement of living conditions, confinement in confinement centers is becoming more and more popular, because confinement centers are more professional, can enjoy good services, and can avoid the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and more and more young mothers are more inclined to go to confinement centers.
However, the confinement center is good, the only drawback is "too expensive", for the average family, going to the confinement center is still a big expense, so many young couples have started the idea of the elderly.
Bao Mom plans to go to the confinement center to sit in confinement, but the mother-in-law refuses to pay for it
The confinement center has special people to take care of the mother, take care of the child, have a special confinement meal, and have a more scientific postpartum recovery plan, so many young mothers choose to go to the confinement center to confinement.
But we also said earlier, although the confinement center has good service, but the price is tens of thousands of thousands, which is not a small amount of money, for ordinary families are to consider repeatedly.
Before I had a colleague Xiaolan, in the third trimester of pregnancy, I considered going to the confinement center to confinement, Xiaolan did not want to trouble the mother-in-law, but also worried about not getting along with the mother-in-law, but the price of going to the confinement center is really expensive, the small two want to let the elderly help share a part, so that the old man does not have to contribute.
But the mother-in-law did not agree with Xiaolan's proposal, either she took care of the confinement at home, or the two families spent money to go to the confinement center, and the mother-in-law said that this is your mother's family's affair, you give them the children born to the family, and the money should also be paid by the other party.
The old people on both sides were unwilling to pay, Xiao Lan was sad and a little depressed at the same time, and since it didn't make sense later, she could only ask for help from her sister-in-law to come to the house.
Are the elderly obligated to pay for young people to go to the confinement center?
All along, the mother-in-law has helped to take care of the daughter-in-law's confinement, as if it is a conventional thing, as if the mother-in-law should do this, after all, the daughter-in-law is married, and the in-laws should be responsible.
Later, with the post-90s generation mostly becoming only children, taking care of confinement is no longer a special task of the mother-in-law, and many mothers and mothers will also take care of their daughters to confinement, and everyone is more like who has time and who can help to help their children share some pressure.
But when it comes to going to the confinement center to confinement, does the elderly have the obligation to pay money? Xiaoxue's mother feels that the elderly do not have this obligation, from a reasonable point of view, most of the elderly are distressed about their children, and they are helping to take care of them and pay for it, but strictly speaking, parents are not obliged to pay so much.
Of course, after all, it is a family, generally there are things that everyone is discussing, usually the elderly can help and will help, unless it is beyond the scope of ability, but young couples must also understand that these things are also likely to become the fuse of the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, affecting the harmony of the family.
Who pays for the money to go to the confinement center and ask the sister-in-law? Young people don't get confused
Everyone has their own family and life, everyone's living environment and family environment are also different, some people crusade against the elderly on the Internet do not help, some people show off that the family takes the initiative to help find the confinement center, life is not an online virtual world, or according to the actual situation to step on the implementation of the ground.
First, the one who can pay for it
Generally speaking, now the in-laws and the mother-in-law are very concerned about the small two, the postpartum confinement is generally a powerful contribution of money, like our mother-in-law at home to help take care of the daughter-in-law, and pay and contribute, and the mother-in-law will often come to visit the daughter, with things to secretly stuff money, the elderly on both sides are in their own way to take care of the small two.
Second, the elderly on each side are half equal
Some mother-in-law and in-laws will balance some, if the life of the two children is difficult, or really encounter difficulties, the elderly on both sides will pay some money, as much as possible to balance, after all, are their own children, so that both care about the children, do not let the relatives feel embarrassed, but also let the relatives balance.
In fact, in the final analysis, the choice to go to the confinement center to sit in the confinement center is the small two families themselves decide, then the money should be out of the small two, the old man is not obliged to pay this money, and choose what kind of confinement method, the small two should also be based on their own economic situation, can not blindly follow the trend.
In the case of good economic conditions, or the case of the elderly taking the initiative, you can naturally choose to go to the confinement center, but if the economic situation is average, then there is also a sister-in-law, or a mother-in-law, a mother-in-law to help take care of these choices, everything must be done according to ability.
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