Growing up, we all lived in the discipline of our parents, and some parents were too strict with their children. You can't look at your phone for a long time, you can't watch TV for a long time, you can't talk when you eat, you should sleep at the end of the time, and you can't resist when your parents reprimand. A variety of rules and regulations make many children unable to wear it.
For such a discipline, parents feel that it is the best love for their children, all for the sake of their children. But sometimes we think about it, is this kind of love a little too harsh? Sometimes it's not okay to love too closely.
The so-called filial piety under the stick, the child will definitely need the discipline of the parents, in the child's growth process, if there is no parental discipline, it is likely to embark on a different path.
However, with the growth of children, parents should sometimes learn to let go, children have been growing, parents should look at children with a developmental vision, sometimes too much management will make children feel disgusted. Especially when the child is in adolescence, if the parents just blindly discipline strictly, the child may be more rebellious.
Moreover, in the process of disciplining children, parents must not make one mistake, that is, double standards. For any requirements of the child, first of all, he should do it, he should lead by example, he has not done it, how can the child put it in his heart.
Some time ago, a girl complained in a circle of friends that her parents' discipline methods were too strict, and this matter also resonated with many young people, who expressed their grievances in the comment area. The girl's mother is still a teacher, it is reasonable to say that the teacher's educational philosophy should be the most perfect ah, why did this girl spit on her mother's educational philosophy?
It turned out that one day, the girl was ready to go to the birthday party of her classmates, so she dressed up at home, but she did not expect that because of her dress, she caused her mother's nagging, and finally had a big fight with her mother and broke up.
As the saying goes, everyone has a heart for beauty, and this girl just wants to dress herself up and go to her classmates' birthday party, and there are no other superfluous thoughts. From the photo, we can see that the girl chose a long skirt with one shoulder, and the girl's figure is very slim, and the skirt with one shoulder can well highlight the beauty of the girl.
However, in the eyes of the mother, such a dress is too revealing, that is, unruly and unruly. The mother blocked the door, and as long as the daughter did not change her clothes, she resolutely did not let her daughter leave the house. The mother's attitude is very determined, and she will definitely not let the child wear this dress out of the house.
But this girl felt that there was nothing wrong with her dress, wasn't it just a one-word shoulder? Such clothes are all over the street, and they are not so exposed. The girl felt that her mother was too feudal and conservative, so she theorized with her mother, and always stressed that she was no longer a child, she had grown up, and what clothes she wore was her own freedom. But the mother was even more angry after hearing the girl's rebuttal.
My mother felt that although she had grown up, in my eyes my daughter had always been a child, and this dress was indeed too exposed, not at all inspected, and it was too humiliating to wear it.
Mom also complained to Dad, and Dad then joined the team, and Dad sent a message to his daughter, and What Dad said was funny and angry. Dads are actually more conservative than moms, and usually not only have strict requirements for their daughters' dress, but also do not let their daughters apply nail polish.
Although the daughter has reached adulthood, but in the eyes of the parents, the daughter is always a small child, no matter what the parents have to worry about, they must discipline it, in fact, this matter is also understandable, but for the discipline of the child, parents should look at this matter with a developmental vision.
In the end, the girl and her mother had to run away from home because of this matter, and her parents always felt that they were not wrong, and the father also explained to the daughter that all this was for her own good, hoping that the daughter could understand the practices of her parents and mothers.
What do you think about this? Do you have the same parents?