Hello everyone, I'm a tomato mom!
There is an old saying, I don't know if the mothers have heard it, that is, "a man's vows before marriage may be false, and he can only see his character after giving birth to a baby." Do you remember what your husband did for you that day after your child was born? Was it a shock or a disappointment or a surprise? I believe that every mother who has experienced having a child will have different feelings.
On the first night of the baby's birth, the whole family is very happy and happy, but during the birth of the baby, only the mother has experienced the test of life and death and the edge of pain, and their bodies are in extreme weakness and discomfort. Often when Bao Mom needs to be taken care of, you can see the character of Bao Dad and whether he loves Bao Ma enough.
I remember when I gave birth to my son, a pregnant woman in the same ward and I were completely different.
When my son was born, my husband would change the child's diapers, take the initiative to give me delicious confinement meals, massages, and often cut fruit for me to eat. But whatever he can do, it doesn't worry me, including giving the child a birth certificate, I haven't been distracted, so I can get out of bed and walk around after 24 hours of giving birth, and my body is recovering well and my appearance is also very good.
However, another mother in the same ward, the hospital where the couple and the mother-in-law went together, the wife gave birth to a daughter, and the mother and daughter were very healthy. The mother-in-law is taking care of her newborn granddaughter, but the husband does not know where to go.
The mother saw my husband giving me a massage and said enviously, "You are really married to the right person, see how much your husband cares about you." As soon as she finished speaking, her mother-in-law immediately replied to her: "Can that be the same?" If you don't look at it, people give birth to sons. ”
Should the birth of a son be treated preferentially, and the birth of a daughter should be snubbed? This is not the old society, and giving birth to boys and girls is not the decisive factor for mothers. This father, who is unwilling to take care of his wife and children, obviously has such a performance because he is not strong in responsibility.
It is said that whether a woman has married the right person and has a child will know. Women are the hardest on the first night of giving birth. At this moment, it is also the one who needs the comfort, care and care of the husband the most. A responsible, loving husband, on the first night of his wife's birth, some things will be rushed to do.
The first night after the birth of the baby is the most difficult, the husband may be able to help do some shy things, which means that it is very reliable
Take care of the wife's body, the husband is not dirty and tired.
Whether it is a vaginal birth or a caesarean section, the mother who has just given birth needs the care of her family.
On the first night after the woman gave birth, more lochia was discharged, and the mattress pad under her body needed to be replaced all the time. Mom's body is difficult to move, and sometimes it takes two people to cooperate to complete it, so it is time to test Dad. If the husband is not dirty and tired, it means that you are married to the right person, and your father's sense of responsibility is still very strong.
There is also the fact that the mother will be very sore on the first night after giving birth to the child, and she will not be able to sleep. Her husband gave her a massage, helped her relieve her pain, cleaned her sweat stains, and made her more comfortable. Everywhere you need to be careful and patient, you can also see how much love Dad has for Mom.
Taking the initiative to worry about and arrange mom's diet proves that Bao Dad is very careful.
There are many constraints in the postpartum diet, not only to eat a nutritious diet, but also not too greasy or cold, spicy and stimulating, and to consider the problem of breastfeeding. Therefore, preparing meals for pregnant women is also a very technical problem.
A healthy diet can make the mother's body recover quickly, so a husband who loves his wife will be very careful about arranging his wife's diet after his wife gives birth, and it will not be troublesome. Dad knows what his wife likes to eat, and knowing what his wife eats is good for his health, it shows that he is usually very attentive to his wife.
Take care of the children, dad will constantly learn and try.
The care of newborns is very troublesome, soft babies, there are many fathers who only dare to look at it, and do not dare to touch it at all. However, children do need to be taken care of, and responsible dads always bravely take responsibility.
When my son was a child, his mother fed the child, and the father held it on the side, and when the child was breastfeeding, the father's arm was tired and numb. The baby pees for a while, pulls for a while, and the father does not dislike the dirty tiredness, always personally changes the baby.
For the baby's things, Bao Dad will not shirk because he will not shirk, and strive to learn to take care of the baby, which also shows that he is a good father with a sense of responsibility. Being so patient and self-motivated with your baby shows that you can usually be a good husband.
Comfort your wife's emotions and try to reassure her.
After giving birth to a child, the mother's mood will fluctuate greatly, and various pains in the body are also easy to make people mentally collapse. I have seen a husband who, after his wife has given birth, the couple always quarrels, and the result is that the wife cries.
The wife has just given birth to a child, and she most wants to be comforted and cared for by her family. At this time, a reliable husband should observe his wife's emotions, and when she is physically uncomfortable, find a way to share it for her.
When your wife has any ideas, try to satisfy her. The wife is in a good mood and will recover her health more quickly. Moreover, a happy mood and emotional stability can also prevent the occurrence of postpartum depression.
Therefore, after the wife has given birth, it is also very important for the husband to pay attention to the wife's emotions and find a way to keep the wife in a happy mood.
From pregnancy to childbirth, it is basically the mother who bears the risk of pregnancy, anxiety and worry about this emotion, and as the father of the child, the husband of the wife, should help the wife to do these things.
Why do you have to do these things for your husband?
Because you are not only the father of the child but also the husband of the wife, these things cannot be done by the elders. Although the first mother-in-law and mother will love their daughter or daughter-in-law, they are always separated by one layer. Moreover, the people who accompany the children and wives in the future must be you, and the hardships that the wife has tasted must understand that her efforts are for this family, and you must also love and cherish her more because of her efforts.
Children are the hope of the family, raising children is also the common responsibility of parents, and happy families need to pay each other.