Three undesirable effects of letting a child hit someone
With the passage of time, children gradually grow up and have their own circle of friends, and it is inevitable that there will be contradictions when playing together. When there are contradictions, some children like to solve problems with their fists. Some parents see that their children are the one who beats people, not the one who was beaten, and it is inevitable that they will secretly rejoice. They think that this is not easy to be bullied, and they will certainly not suffer losses when they grow up. But is that really the case? Today we will talk about the impact of children's likes to hit people?
First, poor interpersonal relations and low social adaptability. In a psychological study on children's social relations at Missouri State University in the United States, 20 children were asked to evaluate the favorability of other friends in the summer camp after a summer camp. For example, who you like to play with the most, who you don't like to play with the most, please line up for your friends according to what you like the most, and give the reason for this evaluation. After synthesizing all the children's evaluations, the researchers got the social situation of the children in this summer camp.
The aggressive, unsociable little guys in the kids' voting will always be excluded from the circle of friends. Another study showed that children who are ostracized because of destructive behaviors and aggression are at risk of psychological disorders in adulthood. In school, he showed various maladaptations, truancy, and the blood defect rate of the little bully was as high as 74%. Piaget's developmental psychology pointed out that peers play a crucial role in the social development of children, and whether children are welcomed, ostracized and ignored by their peers in the process of interacting with other children, and their position in peer interactions, is obviously related to the social development of children in adulthood. That is to say, children who are popular in groups will also become more popular in adult social life in the future.
Second, the sooner a child learns to hit someone, the harder it will be to get rid of it later. When a child is two years old, they are excited or agitated. There are similar attacks, but this phase will soon pass. When the child is slightly older, he will get satisfaction through aggressive movements and deliberately hit people, so it is necessary to pay attention. At a very young age, learned behaviors often accompanied him throughout his life. If the child develops a bad habit of hitting people at a very young age, it will be difficult to change it when he grows up. Therefore, when it is found that children have the habit of hitting people easily, they must be stopped and corrected as soon as possible.
Third, learn the correct way to handle contradictions. Some parents even teach their children to deal with conflicts in a tit-for-tat manner. If they are defeated, they have to fight back. This way of dealing with it invisibly instills a false perception in their children that attacking others is the best way to deal with contradictions. Whenever he encounters something that is not what he wants, the baby will attack himself. For babies who are weak by nature, they will think that it is normal for them to be bullied, and thus become weaker. Children who have grown up under the influence of this kind of education for a long time will not learn how to correctly handle contradictions.
In the future, various social barriers are more likely to occur. Therefore, when the child is beaten, parents must intervene in time to help the child establish good behavior habits and lay a solid foundation for the child's future development.