After being a full-time mother for three years, now that the baby has enrolled in school, he has returned to the workplace, has a new understanding in parenting, kindergarten, family, marriage, emotions, etc., and is still the mother who likes to share, hoping to share more topics that can collide with sparks and dry goods with babies...
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The temperature in Nanjing was as high as 30 degrees a few days ago, we all put on short sleeves, this week the temperature plummeted, the spring cold and encountered rain, stay outside for a while, full of excitement.
This is not the most tragic, the most tragic thing is that in this kind of weather, you have to queue up to do nucleic acid.
The new notice is that you must carry a nucleic acid test report within 48 hours to go to work, so today there are suddenly a lot of people doing nucleic acids, and there are long queues everywhere, and you can't see your head at a glance.
In addition, there are notices, refuse not to do nucleic acid, become a yellow code, which means that without nucleic acid, you can't go anywhere, because you have to read nucleic acid and nucleic acid test reports everywhere, even into the community is no exception.
Husband went to work this morning, because the nucleic acid test report exceeded 48 hours, continue to work from home, and he at the same time, but also because of the nucleic acid test report, forbidden to enter the park, he can only go home, the result back home also to provide nucleic acid report, he had no choice but to queue up to do nucleic acid.
It is in this environment that we also brave the rain to queue up to do nucleic acid.
The queue process saw this scene and had mixed feelings
In the process of queuing, I couldn't help but call "too cold, cold to die", the sky is really bad, it is really cold, and the hand holding the umbrella will be frozen.
Originally, I felt very sad, and when I saw the scene in front of me, I forgot about the cold.
A family of four in front of them is also queuing up to do nucleic acid, a grandmother and a grandchild, and a young couple.
They had lined up to the shed, so they didn't have to hold an umbrella, and if they didn't abandon the cold raindrops that occasionally dripped down, they theoretically didn't have to hold an umbrella.
The young mother held the umbrella and played with the mobile phone, the father did not hold the umbrella, also looked down to play with the mobile phone, only the grandmother held a grandson of more than 3 years old, the little boy is real leather, the grandmother put him down, he began to run and jump, there is a lot of rain on the pants.
Grandma helplessly picked up the child, the child twisted and pounded on the grandma, the grandma almost fell down by him, cramped, stood, full of helplessness, the boy continued to pound on the grandma.
The shed was dripping with rain, holding a boy who was more than a meter tall, the boy was still very naughty, and the old man's expression was very painful, but there was not a word of complaint.
The young couple didn't say a word, just occasionally looked up and continued to play with their phones down.
This scene is really eye-catching, I really don't know whether to sympathize with this old man or to be angry about the scene in front of me.
The status of children continues to rise, and the status of parents continues to decline
This scene is very eye-catching, very harsh, but this scene is very common.
This era is very delicate, it is in a joint place, adult children do not need to respect their parents, and pay special attention to young children.
So there is a phenomenon that makes people feel angry and helpless, the child is the overlord at home, and the old man becomes a servant.
Not long ago, I watched "Siege of the City" again, "Siege" mentioned that the father and mother were "old women", "old ladies", at that time in the semi-feudal period, "old ladies" were the parents of the family, the highest status, followed by the old lady, sons and daughters-in-law must obey the words of the old lady, the old lady.
One of the descriptions is that Fang Hongwei's mother has a good temperament and does not harshly rebuke her daughter-in-law, the old lady brings her grandson, and the daughter-in-law is very idle.
There is no lack of ironic tone in the words, now looking at this book, there are many new feelings, I have to say that Qian Lao is a very far-sighted person, to know that this book was written in 1946, there are many views in it are very advanced.
The description of this detail is only the beginning, and the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has long changed greatly.
I don't know whether to rejoice in the elevation of the status of my children or to mourn the bottomless decline in the status of my parents' families.
Only children are allowed to be angry, and old people are not allowed to get angry
The scene in the opening chapter is actually very common, but the form is different.
Last summer, my baby was still free-range in the community, and one morning just took the baby to the central garden of the community, and a grandmother came with the child and scolded and grinned.
It turned out that when she got up in the morning, she was "reprimanded" by her son and daughter-in-law, and the content of the reprimand was that the posture of holding the child was wrong.
After that, I often saw her in the community, sometimes I saw her and her son and daughter-in-law, and I could often see her being reprimanded by her son and daughter-in-law, the child was a baby, and the old man was a "servant".
She would tell people, "My eldest son is not like this, this is my younger son." ”
There are many such cases, basically every day, and it is rare to occasionally see grandmas dare to reprimand children and even beat children.
Now there are really few grandmothers who dare to educate their grandchildren, and grandchildren can make unreasonable trouble, but the elderly dare not beat their children.
This phenomenon is quite ironic, should be valued by young people, raising children should not be so raised, the basic respect for the elderly and love for children or to abide by, the more children in front of the children show no respect for the elderly, the greater the impact on children.
A few words I want to say to young people
I remembered a public service advertisement I saw on the bus: We all have a day when we are getting old, and to be kind to the elderly is to be kind to ourselves.
We worry about the child's personality development, we worry about the child's intellectual development, we worry about the child's quality education, we worry so much, but always ignore the parents' exemplary power on the child's influence is the greatest.
How parents treat their parents in front of their children will lay the foundation for their children's attitude towards their parents in the future.
If a child cannot do even the minimum of "respecting the elderly", how can we expect him to achieve something and expect him to become a successful person?