Children must learn to be independent in order to survive

99% of parents have abandoned their children's teaching, and children who want to teach big things must be taught in the opposite direction with all parents.

Everyone who has been a parent knows that when your child is still a baby, in addition to his appearance is more kind and lovely, you will find that his behavior and behavior we can't even see the shadow of goodness, the baby's belief is very simple, just eight words, "those who follow me prosper, those who oppose me die"!

Babies are born self-centered, he will not stand in your position for your sake at all, as long as he wants something, he will go to take it, he will cry when he can't get it, if he can't get it, he will cry louder until he gets it, the child's solipsistic thought, does not need anyone to teach, it is innate, if the baby is not selfish, we humans may not live today A baby sees the mother holding a cookie in her hand, and wants to put it in her mouth to eat, Selfish and selfish, he will not stand in the position of his mother to think, he will not have compassion, there will be no shame, he will not hesitate to snatch the biscuits in his mother's hand, put his mouth, if the baby is hungry, but also to take care of the mother's feelings, he will starve to death.

Everyone is born to play the means of virtual and real power, so your child is born a family, you teach your child from an early age to be obedient, to be currency, to be honest, to be responsible, so that you will drown out the child's lifeless aggression.

When the child grows up, he is weak and incompetent, and can only be said to be the prey of the rich population, and it is you who have taught a wolf to be a soft sheep.

Many children taught by their parents have grown up, it is difficult to find a wife, it is difficult to eat a meal, and they are blinded in society and let the mermaids

Throughout history, we see that many people have been able to go to the ruler, and they all have one thing in common, from the child king. Before Liu Bang's uprising, he was the eldest brother of a group of people, Fan Duo, Xiao He, Cao Shan, and Lu Xie were all his younger brothers.

Zhu Yuanzhang was also a child king since he was a child, and he took Tang He and Zhou Dexing every day to play, let them do things for themselves, and let them listen to their own words.

Every day, the child king is trying to find a way to make the child listen to his own words, and every day he is also thinking about how to deal with people who do not listen. So we should try our best to let the child be the head of the class, remember, if we want to do everything possible to let him sit in this position, it is really impossible to sit in the head of the class, we must train his ability to lead the class leader.

From a young age, we must learn the ability to give up, Lai Changxing said a famous saying, not afraid of leadership has principles, afraid of leadership has no hobbies, these 2 sentences are leadership

At the core, the reason why people are willing to be led by you is because he believes that he can get benefits from you.

Do you remember when we were children, we all liked to follow what kind of people's asses were behind the farts?

To put it bluntly, whoever gives us toys we play with, whoever gives us food, we listen to him.

The real charm of a leader lies in the mind and means of sharing money, as long as you are willing to divide the money, you will divide the money, you immediately establish the image of God in his heart.

As long as you are a stingy person in the heart of the team, no matter what you do, you can't make up for it, because he knows that he can never take advantage of you and will never be led by you again

This can explain why many people who read well have done employees, and many who have not read well have led the group of brothers to start a business and become bosses. Because they study books every day in school, and those who don't read well study people every day in school, they are proficient in human nature.

1. Let the child adapt to the law of the jungle from an early age

Our parents taught us to grow up to find a stable job, we were not allowed to talk big, we were not allowed to touch money, kung fu did not pay off, and when we grew up, we did not disappoint them, we lived as they expected, because we were poor and really did not have money to touch.

We grew up with an education of the poor, an education of the weak, and we looked down on the rich, rejected the rich, and were hostile to them. We believe that the poor are good people, the poor have a good heart, and we let the inner world of children come out of the mud without staining.

It is not until the child enters society that most people cannot adapt to the law of the jungle, and they find that society and the world of understanding are completely opposite, because we reject rich people from an early age, so we do not make money.

Because we believe that human nature is inherently good, we are helpless in the business war by all kinds of bad people, resulting in our failure to honor our parents, let them become empty nest old people, lonely and lonely, not because we are not filial piety, but incompetent. We can't do responsibility and care for children, let them become left-behind children, not our hearts are cruel, but we are incompetent, if we don't let children learn strategy, there is only one result when they grow up.

The strong man is tempered from childhood, when the child is young, the parents must be cruel to him, create setbacks and blows to him, you bully him enough at home, he will be bullied less by others when he goes out, you should scold at home, all the people who should be beaten are beaten, and after he goes out, he can have a stronger ability to resist setbacks.

Some children, at home are spoiled by their parents, I said in my heart, wait, the unlucky days in the future, to the society, not everyone is his father, who will hurt him so much? Avoidance to take care of his feelings ?

You can't get used to him for a lifetime, don't let him develop the habit of being used to it, through the pressure and setbacks given to him at home, let him learn to judge the hour and size up the situation, move in and out freely, fight when he has beaten, talk about it if he can't fight, run if he can't talk about it, and endure it if he can't run.

In short, we must learn to minimize the harm to ourselves, let him learn, the way to cope with setbacks and bear pressure, this is wisdom, how society will treat him in the future, how you should treat him at home, when the child is small, if you successfully help him bypass all setbacks, then when he grows up, he will be frustrated to bypass all successes.

2. Cultivate a sense of competition

Mengniu Company's conference room hung a painting of a lion and an antelope, and there was a passage on the screen: In the early morning, the antelope on the African savannah woke up from its sleep, it knew that the new race was about to begin, the opponent was still the fastest other lion, if you want to survive, you must be more than the breed, on the other hand, the pressure of the lion is not small, if you can't run the slowest antelope, you don't have to eat, when the sun rises, in order to survive, run as much as you want!

We need to let children understand from an early age that all benefits do not fall from the sky, but are obtained through competition. Our success is built on the basis of our own strength and the failure of our opponents.