The previous article mentioned two suggestions for Awa, that is, to give children more frequent and timely feedback, because of the behavior of Awa "living in the moment", so this feedback and praise should be more timely, more frequent, more.
Today, let's take a look at Dr. Barkley's third and fourth recommendations--- more attractive rewards and rewards and punishments.
Article 3: May be adopted
More potent and significant rewards
Children with ADHD need more significant and impactful influences than other children to motivate them to do tasks better, follow rules, and exhibit good behavior.
You can use soothing, small entitlements, special snacks or snacks, chips or points, or material rewards like small toys, collectibles, and even occasionally money.
The frequent use of material rewards seems to be contrary to our general perception, and the average parent will think that the intrinsic rewards of the task itself, such as the pleasure of reading, the willingness to make parents or friends happy, the pride of learning new skills, or the sense of respect received. These are ok for the average child.
However, for ADHD, there is a lack of sufficient influence.
Because in Awa's brain, executive function is lagging behind.
This requires their parents to increase their praise, or similar social or symbolic rewards, to give them a stronger impact so that they can better focus on their tasks.
This lack of self-control in children requires parents to use more powerful, more significant, and sometimes more materialistic arrangements and rewards to encourage them to produce and maintain their own positive behaviors.
Article 4: Rewards are given before punishment
(Punishment and reward at the same time)
Parents use punishment to deal with their children's misconduct or defiant behavior. This is true for the average child, who only occasionally has misbehaving and therefore does not receive much punishment.
For Awa, the probability of their misconduct is much greater, so they get a lot of negative feedback.
Punishment alone does not have a significant effect on the behavior modification of ADHD.
Punishment often leads to resentment and hostility towards your child, eventually causing the child to avoid you, and sometimes even triggering what psychologists call "anti-control": for too much punishment, your child will find ways to fight back, retaliate, and even seek a "balance" of tit-for-tat.
Therefore, avoid simply punishing this most common form.
Give positive feedback before giving negative feedback.
Start with encouragement and rewards that tell your child what you want him to do, not just what he shouldn't do.
The idea of "giving positive feedback before giving it negative feedback" is simple: when you want to correct a bad behavior in your child, first determine what the positive behavior is that replaces that behavior.
When your child doesn't know what you expect him to do, you can demonstrate.
When your child acts positively, you can give praise and rewards.
Only after you reward your child for at least a few days to a week in a row for new behavior can you begin punishing them for the opposite, unacceptable bad behavior.
Even if the punishment is initiated, it can only be a minor punishment, such as canceling a small privilege or special activity, or giving a short suspension punishment, and paying attention to maintaining the balance between punishment and reward: every 2 to 3 rewards or praises given, one punishment can be given.
Punishment must be selective on the basis of consistency and only target this particular bad behavior.
Remember, don't punish your child for doing something else wrong.
For example, if a child frequently interrupts or harasses others during meals. Even presumptuous comments, what should you do.
Before the next family dinner, you should talk to your child about how you want him to behave at the dinner table: try to talk less, wait until someone else is done, and don't talk when you eat.
You have to tell your child that if they follow the rules, they can get points. During the meal, you mark the points on a small card to make sure your child can see your behavior, while you can use nonverbal hints, such as blinking eyes, to let the child know your approval of his efforts to follow the rules.
For children who ignore the rules, ignore the time of a week or so, and then let the child know before the next meal that breaking the rules from now on means losing a point.
Remember that every two or three rewards given is only one penalty point or penalty.
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Source Creek Teacher / California Public Gordon College - Master of Psychology
· Professional member of the American ADHD Association (CHADD).
· Registered psychological counselor of the Chinese Mental Health Association
· Teen Instructor
· Power hypnotist