Awa parents, when you give orders to your children, sometimes like the picture above, how many times does it not work?
In children with ADHD, the development of the brain makes it necessary to be simple and clear in following instructions.
In mainstream behavioral therapy in the United States, communicating with Awa requires the following points:
The number and seriousness of the order
Only orders that can be carried out to the end.
Focus on a few serious commands, don't give orders often but often give up halfway.
For example, some parents hope that their children can start playing the piano now, so they have formulated a lot of relevant rules, but maybe half a year and a year, they can't stick to it.
Pay attention to the seriousness of the order, the number can not be too much.
Don't ask back, or ask
And don't complain
Orders should be given in a simple, direct, business-like tone.
Don't say, "Why don't we pick up the toys now?" "It's time to eat, let's wash our hands?" "Why are you still watching TV, does talk count?" ”
Ask your child if you agree at the end of the order, which is less effective than direct statements, such as "Pick up your toys", "It's time to eat, go wash your hands", "Turn off the TV"
There is no need to shout, just to say it firmly and directly.
Don't give too many commands at once
Most children can only obey one or two commands at the same time.
Now, you can only place one specific command at a time.
If the task you want your child to complete is somewhat complex, break it into smaller steps and have your child complete only one step at a time.
For example, turn off the TV and write homework.
You can ask your child to turn off the TV first, and when it is done, he will give the order to write his homework.
Have your child repeat the command
Asking a child to repeat a command is very effective, on the one hand, repeating the parent's order can strengthen the instruction in his own brain, and on the other hand, it also checks that he really hears your command.
Make a task card or message board
When your child reaches grades 2-3, you write down every task you need to complete, including steps and deadlines.
When he's done, he √, which can effectively manage his tasks.
Highlights:
Valid directives refer to simple;
Do not use rhetorical questions or requests;
One command at a time, complex commands need to be decomposed;
Have your child repeat your commands;
Make task cards and message boards.
Of course, after the child does it, he will use the positive reinforcement we introduced earlier to give reinforcement.
What if my child doesn't listen to an order? Next time we will continue to explain.
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