What should love look like? On this question, Isakovsky's words can be directly explained: "Love, this is not one heart to beat another heart, but the spark of two hearts colliding together." ”
A sincere love must be formed by the mutual affection of two people, and only such love can have a happy ending, can enjoy the happy process of love, and can also feel the meaning of love. If in love, you only want to enjoy, only want to take, but never willing to pay half a point, even if you meet a person who loves you very much, it will not last too long.
Just like in "Why Sheng Zhen Mo", Lu Yuanfeng liked He Yimei, and the two people also began to fall in love for a period of time. But in He Yimei's heart, she actually didn't like Lu Yuanfeng and was with Lu Yuanfeng, but she just wanted to use this relationship to heal her love wounds and help her forget the person who couldn't get it.
However, in the end, no matter what Lu Yuanfeng did, He Yimei had never moved her heart, nor had she paid anything, let alone taken the initiative to maintain this relationship. Although Lu Yuanfeng loves He Yimei very much, seeing He Yimei's attitude, he also knows very well in his heart that he is not the person in the other party's heart. Although reluctant, he still chose to let go.
For a man, at the beginning of love, they only want the other person to grant their request and be able to start a relationship. Even if the other party's heart is not completely moved, at least he can have such an opportunity to get along. But as the two get along, a man's feelings for a woman lie entirely in the woman's attitude towards him.
There is a response to their own efforts, and the love that men give to women will naturally increase. If you don't get any response from the woman, the man's heart will love a woman again, and he will slowly be disappointed and eventually choose to give up.
Joseph Rouh once said, "What is love?" One body and two hearts; what is friendship? Two bodies and one heart. ”
Two people in love, even if they have their own ideas, at least in the matter of love, they can achieve a united front. If you can't even do this, what about love?
Therefore, if a woman's heart is moved by a man, if she wants to get this love, she must take the initiative appropriately. This initiative is not to let women take the initiative to show their minds, but to know how to give men a certain response. Whether it's eye contact, body language, or some detailed behavior, these are the best hints for men. If a man really likes a woman, he will naturally become more active and brave because of these hints.
Women who know how to "take the initiative" are more likely to grasp their love.
As the saying goes, "women's hearts, needles under the sea", when the opposite sex gets along, if women protect their minds very well, for men, they generally cannot understand women's minds. In this way, even if they want to pursue this woman in their hearts, they will become confused because of the woman's calmness, because of the woman's inaction, and they will not know whether they should take the initiative or not.
If in some behaviors, men misunderstand the woman's mind, thinking that in the woman's mind, there is no good feeling for themselves at all, the man's heart will also be hit by some blows, so he does not dare to take the initiative to take a step forward.
Shakespeare said: "Love is not a sweet word in the shade of a flower, not a honey word in the peach blossom source, not a light tear, nor a hard compulsion, love is based on a common language." ”
When a woman wants to have a love and doesn't want to be too active, she must learn to give the man some love signals and let him guess your mind. Just like when chatting, if men feel that you have a lot of common language between you, they will feel very happy when chatting, naturally they will be more active, and slowly test your mind with this relationship.
If a woman directly gives a man a very cold, arrogant attitude, in the end, it will make the man feel that you have no good feelings for him at all, so there is no common language. When a man thinks like this, the love in his heart will naturally be greatly affected, and it will be slowly consumed.
In love, there is a payout, there will be a harvest.
If women want to harvest their own happiness, they naturally need to learn to take the initiative to pay. Plato said: "Love, only love, can make people dare to give their lives for those they love; this is something that not only men can do, but women can also do." ”
If a woman really likes a man and wants to get this love, she must understand this truth. At the beginning of love, maybe men won't ask you for anything, and they won't say they need you to give. But in the subsequent relationship, even if men do not say it, they will definitely feel that love needs to be paid in both directions in their hearts. Men can naturally capture this information from your attitude.
If a woman wants to be happy on the one hand, but on the other hand, she is not willing to pay anything, men will also have their own considerations, and they will not be willing to be a love fool.
At the beginning of love, there is nothing we can do; but if we want to maintain a relationship well, we need to be rational. When we meet love, we all want the other person to be the right person. However, the so-called "right people" are not met, but cultivated by each other.
Since both people have already moved their hearts, why not start a two-way love? This is the most beautiful place of love, you don't have to work too hard to have a love, and you don't have to be too wronged, you can get a happiness.
Women should remember a saying by La Bruyère: "Love comes from love." ”
Love is not waiting to come, it is not met, and it is not asked for from others. Since you are in love with a person, you may wish to learn to take the initiative appropriately in order to better grasp your own happiness.