"People in the past were right: When parents raise girls, they must spend more money on girls and raise their daughters richly; rich boys should spend less money on him and raise their sons poorly, so that boys can only do something when they grow up, and girls are not easy to be deceived when they grow up." An old man in the family saw that I had signed up for a lot of tutoring classes for my son, and when he bought this and that for his children, he told me so.
In fact, this is a very typical misconception, in fact, the parenting of children can not refer to the material conditions, this ancient saying is more in the spiritual upbringing.
No matter what the situation, parents should try their best to give their children good conditions, so as to meet the child's cognition and vision. Today we will introduce this old saying in detail, what kind of situations? Parents must not be poor?
First, avoid children's self-esteem damage, try not to give children second-hand items
Many parents in the idea of saving money, give their children to use other sisters and brothers used items, parents think that this does not have to spend money to buy new, and the previous use of the need not to throw away the old things can be reused. In fact, the starting point of this idea is good, but parents should understand what advantages and disadvantages this practice will bring to their children.
When children are young, their values are not mature, and they will not understand that parents are careful in the idea of saving, but they will think that parents have been using old items for themselves because parents do not value themselves.
And this age stage is also a time when children are strong in comparison, if the child is compared with other children, they may have a sense of inferiority and gap.
Second, avoid children paying too much attention to materials, and parents try not to cry poor with their children
"The family is really poor, so usually you must save well, don't compare this with others." Many parents prevent their children from loving to compare with others, so many times they are overcorrecting. In fact, instilling in children the concept of poor family and not spending money casually will really affect the child's future consumption and money concept.
Therefore, before educating children not to spend money indiscriminately, we can first let children understand the difficulty and hardship of making money, so that children can experience the hard work of parents, so that he will naturally save consciously. The second is to establish a good concept of consumption for children, tell children to eliminate waste, and learn to compare connotations and knowledge with others is the real strong.
Third, in addition to not being too frugal in ideology and concept, parents do not need to be too stingy in their life style
We must establish a correct concept of consumption for our children, and we cannot spend money lavishly, let alone be stingy in everything. For example, we must be able to spend appropriately in addition to ensuring our normal expenses, there is no need to be reluctant to eat and wear anything, otherwise such excessive savings will only make our quality of life very poor, and will make children pay too much attention to material life in this tight family atmosphere.
If the child pays too much attention to material conditions, it is very likely that in the future life, it is difficult for the child to chase the spiritual sufficiency, and the blind pursuit of material is also the key reason for shaping the child's distorted psychology. In addition, few people are willing to deal with such calculating people, which will also affect the child's communication and marriage concept.
The impact of family education on children is far-reaching and long-lasting, so parents must uphold the scientific concept of parenting and focus on cultivating children's correct values.
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