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Some roads just don't work,
Some hurdles just can't be overcome.
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When people are at a low point, self-crossing is the best antidote
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Author: Nightly CC
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I've seen a story about the Majia fish.
These fish usually swim fast, but the way to catch them is very simple.
Fishermen only need to use a net with a thin eyelet, tie an iron block to the lower end and put it into the water, and drag it by two small boats to intercept a large group.
I believe that many people wonder, the hole of the fishing net is so big, and it is open on three sides, why did the fish not escape?
It turns out that the majia fish has a characteristic, that is, it will not change when it sees a direction, and it will not turn even if it encounters obstacles, so it will be easily caught.
In fact, many people in reality are not like Ma Jiayu.
is bound by fixed thinking, and everything is tendoned, just caring about rampage, one road to the dark.
How can such a person not hit a wall in life.
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Zhang Lijun, a former Ali expert, once recruited an executive who had worked for a well-known large factory.
But since the senior management took office, 80% of the team has protested against him.
The reason is that the executive is very superstitious about his previous set of successful management.
When he arrived at the new company, he didn't consider the current situation of the company's few people and miscellaneous things, and directly copied and used it.
For example, there are three or four meetings a day, which lasts for an hour or two, and a lot of complex reports are made......
These redundant processes and strict systems make employees more and more unbearable.
So Zhang Lijun reminded him to learn to change and deal with things flexibly.
But the executive felt that his approach could not go wrong, and he continued to do his own thing.
As a result, the company's efficiency is getting worse and worse, and more and more employees are resigning.
After this incident, the executive still hasn't learned to change his mindset.
After going to a few companies, it didn't take long for him to be fired, and he became more and more mixed in the industry.
What happened to this executive made me want a very classic cartoon.
The people in the comics have also hit a wall, but they still don't know how to turn, and as a result, they will die in place and never go far.
Therefore, the most indispensable thing for a person is the wisdom of flexibility.
There is a good saying, there is no hurdle in the world that cannot be passed, only a corner that cannot be turned.
Many times, people fail because they stick to the wrong things and don't know how to change them.
So no matter what they do, they can't get around the high wall in front of them.
But as the saying goes, the road turns at will, and you will have a new situation when you turn around in your thinking.
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In addition to stubbornness, many people also have another terminal illness called "self-grasping".
To put it simply, people with this trait, who are psychologically stubborn, do not turn around.
One or two bad things happen and it could put him in a situation from which he will never recover.
In 1895, the English writer Oscar Wilde spotted a poster on the door of the club he frequented.
The poster frantically denigrated Wilde's work and accused him of posturing.
Enraged when Wilde saw this, he immediately went to investigate and found that the poster had been posted by the notorious Marquess of Queensberry.
Friends advised Wilde not to take the madman's words seriously, and that the matter would soon settle down on its own.
But Wilde refused to give up and vowed to pursue the matter to the end.
He paused all writing and devoted his energies to the lawsuit against Queensberry.
In this way, he has been entangled with Queensberry for two years, and finally lost the case and was sentenced to two years of hard labor.
During this time, his wife also remarried with children.
After the expiration of his military service, he was no longer accepted by mainstream literature, and within a few years, he died of depression.
In fact, if he could have changed his mentality and not bothered with rotten people, his life would not have been drawn to the abyss.
It's a pity that many people don't have the wisdom to turn around this way.
Not only do you not know how to turn the page when you encounter something, but you also have to drill the tip of the horns when you have happened, such a person is destined to fall deeper and deeper into the quagmire of pain.
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In life, there will always be many potholes.
But the more we get to this point, the more we will find:
What traps us is not the so-called dead ends at all, but the mentality that will not turn.
As the saying goes, the fool is stubborn, and the wise man is fickle.
Those who are really smart are ready to turn a corner when they are about to come to the end of a stretch of road.
Chinese painting master Fang Zhaolu originally had a happy family, but when she was thirty-seven years old, her husband died unexpectedly.
Fang Zhaolu was so sad that he almost lost the courage to live.
But she couldn't bear to leave her lonely mother-in-law and children, so she turned her head and picked up the burden of the family.
She first took over the trading company before her husband's death, but because she was a layman, she always struggled to take care of it, and the company's income also plummeted.
By chance, she discovered that a good painting could sell for a high price, so she immediately changed her approach and began to seek a breakthrough in the painting she was good at.
For this reason, she also made great efforts to apprentice Zhang Daqian.
Under Zhang Daqian's guidance, her painting skills have improved by leaps and bounds.
Soon after, her fame grew, and she began to hold solo exhibitions again, which made her famous all over the world.
Her paintings also cost a lot of money, and it is said that at her peak someone was willing to trade a house for one of her paintings.
And she herself has become one of the few female masters of Chinese painting in the history of the mainland.
Therefore, you must not have a tendon to be a man, instead of struggling in the predicament of life, it is better to find another way out and make a gorgeous turn.
The ancients often said: the straight road can be far from the horse, and the winding path can lead to the secluded.
There can never be only one path in life, and you don't have to hang yourself from a tree.
When you feel that the road in front of you is difficult, you might as well take a different path;
When you feel that life is gloomy everywhere, then change your mindset and perspective.
Once you remove the clouds, you will find that when God closes a window for you, he has already opened another door for you.
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Finally, I will tell you the story of a Hollywood actor, Christopher.
He was the protagonist of the movie "Superman", and as the movie exploded, Christopher was also a smash hit at the time.
Unfortunately, he unfortunately fell off his horse during an equestrian competition and became a high paraplegic, and since then he has been living in a wheelchair.
In the face of such a drastic change, Christopher couldn't accept it at all, and just wanted to end his life as soon as possible.
Later, in order to make him feel better, his wife drove him on a trip.
When the car pulls onto a winding mountain road, Christopher always sees a "turn ahead" sign.
These four words kept hitting his brain, and he suddenly realized that it was his previous actions that had forced him into a desperate situation.
He felt as if he needed to make a change.
So, he tried his hand at directing, trying his hand at writing, and raising money for people with disabilities.
After helping more people and doing more meaningful things, he gradually ignited new hopes in life.
At the same time, his film won a Golden Globe Award, and his first book, "Still Me", was also popular with many readers.
Later, when looking back on his mental journey, he sincerely sighed:
When misfortune strikes, it's not that the road is at the end of the road, but that it's time to turn a corner.
Life is like a game of clearing levels, standing in front of various gates, you can either turn a corner or go straight.
But if you have written this road in front of you, and you still rush forward with all your strength, then you are destined to hit the wall in this life.
You have to know that not all roads lead to Rome.
Some roads just don't work, and some hurdles just can't be crossed.
If you stubbornly hit forward, what awaits you in front of you must be the end of your head breaking and bleeding.
The road of life is so long, and if you turn a corner in a cramped place, your life will take another turn.
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An old man once asked the little novice, "What would you do if you went further and die, and if you took a step back, you would die?"
The little novice thought for a moment and replied, "I'll go to the side." ”
In just four words, the true meaning of the world is exhausted.
Knowing how to turn is a kind of wise wisdom, and learning to turn is the way to survive for people.
As the saying goes, if you are poor, you will change, and if you change, you will be able to do it for a long time.
By turning a corner at the end of the road and turning around at the end of the road, we can skillfully avoid all the obstacles in life and make a detour to where we want to go.
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