Over sixty years old, no matter how capable you are, you must be a "useless" person in due course

As the saying goes: The blessed do not have to be busy, and the unblessed are busy cutting off their intestines.

All such a big difference is that many people have been proving themselves to be a "useful" person all their lives, even if they are old, they still have to "compete" with young people, so that they cannot avoid having to do everything, can only experience the hardships of the process, and have no time to experience the happiness hidden in ordinary life and the unexpected "small luck".

Therefore, when that person is over sixty years old, no matter how big his ability is, he must know how to "show weakness", especially in the face of the following kinds of people, retract his "sharp edge" and be a useless person, in order to do more with half the effort, in order to feel more happiness.

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In front of idle children, being a "useless" person can break their idea of "nibbling on the old".

Many young people "nibble on the old", most of them are particularly capable parents and grandparents at home, from childhood to adulthood has been spoiled, after adulthood, they habitually "pamper themselves", just enjoy, regardless of others.

Take my own cousin, for example, after graduating from high school, did not go to college, did not want to suffer to learn a technology, followed others to the coastal cities to work, felt too bitter to return to their hometown, and never went out to break in.

When working along the coast, I met a girlfriend who was also delicious and lazy, and the family thought with all their hearts, estimating that they had become a family and had children, they would assume the responsibility of "parenting".

So, I hollowed out my family, bought a house and a car for them, and held a lively wedding. Soon, they gave birth to a son, and they felt that "passing on the generations" had merit, and they did not bring children, one only cared about playing games, one only caring about chasing dramas, and the responsibility of supporting the family seemed to have nothing to do with them.

It was painful for my aunt and uncle, and my grandmother, who lived with them. My aunt and uncle moved bricks at the construction site all year round, earning some hard money to maintain expenses, while grandma took over the heavy responsibility of cooking three meals a day and carrying heavy grandchildren.

Looking at such a "non-like" family, relatives have persuaded many times that they will "split up" and let them live alone with their children, but Grandma said that as long as they live for one day, they will do their best to help them for a day; aunts and uncles also feel that there is only such a son, no matter how tired they are, they must continue to survive, so as not to be laughed at by the villagers.

Suddenly, the cousin and the cousin-in-law were almost forty years old, the two were still idle, the eighty-year-old grandmother had faltered, but there was not a day without housework, and the aunt and uncle were more than sixty years old and could not get back from the construction site.

In this regard, in addition to shaking their heads and sighing, relatives and friends are "not strange", the three old people in the family are reluctant to let themselves become "useless" people, invisibly, they give the young people who "nibble on the old" sufficient confidence.

This kind of laborious and unflattering approach is not only sacrificing their own happiness, but also harming the younger generations.

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In front of colleagues who are good at calculation, being a "useless" person can avoid becoming their "tool man".

Some people say that when you are over sixty, you have already retired. But for some people who "have a specialty in the art industry", returning to work and re-employment and continuing to exert their residual heat is the life they want most.

At this time, they naturally enjoy more "honors" than before they retired, and they are also extra free because they have completely got rid of the pursuit of "fame and profit". Naturally, for subordinates, or young colleagues, there is more "enthusiasm" and willingness to teach "hand in hand".

In the workplace, some people are very motivated, always and everywhere want to learn some skills, long insight, even if they suffer more. But there is no shortage of people who fish in muddy waters, always want to take advantage of others in order to achieve their own achievements.

This kind of person who is good at calculation is the best at playing the "emotional card". On the surface, they are particularly low-key, humble and enthusiastic in front of these "old seniors", but once they have won their trust, they have begun to find various excuses to make the "old seniors" their "tool people".

In this regard, really smart people, after seeing the real "face" of their colleagues, understand that "relying on the old and selling the old", either directly pose a posture of "hanging high without caring about themselves", or pretending that they are also "powerless", so as to dispel the other party's idea of "free use".

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In front of relatives and friends who value profit over righteousness, we must learn to be a "useless" person and avoid provoking right and wrong.

A senior monk once said: Before you have compassion for others, be kind to yourself.

Many people from childhood to adulthood have been educated, to be kind to others, friendly to others, so that "multiple friends and multiple roads" can be realized, in order to establish a "good relationship" and win a "good reputation".

And as people grow older, they will find that if they are useless, the level of ability is very limited, no one will look up to themselves, and those circles that look bright and beautiful can only look up to themselves.

On the contrary, when they have suffered enough and survived the appearance, they will unconsciously become the "focus" in the eyes of relatives and friends, whether it is a chance encounter, or a careful "door-to-door", they stubbornly believe that this person who has a good life will definitely be able to help himself.

If a person reaches the age of sixty, he still can't see through these people's feelings, and he still wants to "be strong" in front of his relatives and friends in order to "make the most of the limelight", he can only say that he is making himself bitter.

After all, helping is not a one-person thing, it involves the use of a lot of network resources, and the "human debt" owed by this is the most difficult to repay.

Keep a modest low profile, do not attract attention, when you can help, secretly help, silent. In this way, we can do a good job of human feelings.

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Conclusion:

After the age of sixty, don't be "strong" anymore.

Do what you should do at this age, just like playing football, not offside, not in a good position, not in a chaotic position, just do what you should do, and everything will be smooth.

Author: Like the wind is light as a cloud.

Your happiness, my blessings.

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