The Tao Te Ching says, "Therefore there is profit for profit, but there is no use for it." ”
Many times, we always measure the value of a thing by "useful" or "useless", and whether we need to do it all the time.
However, a happy life does not all come from "useful things", but from more "useless things".
This is even more important for people over fifty.
After all, the most important thing for you at this age is to have a good attitude, and the acquisition of a good attitude is often not obtained from what you have.
To be honest, people over fifty, please let yourself do more of these "useless things".
1 Don't ask about harvest geometry, just for pure hobby
I believe that whenever we mention the word "useless", many people will dismiss or sneer at it, and will immediately give a rebuttal: If it is useless, why do it?
In fact, just imagine, too many times busy life makes us feel tired, because we desperately want to have too much or want to do something that can be achieved immediately, the more so the more we make ourselves like a gear on the machine, not stopping for a moment.
The more this is the case, the more my anxiety multiplies, and the more I am impetuous.
After fifty years, if you do not have a healthy mentality to see the world, but still look at the bits with a utilitarian mood, then do not say that the present is good, and the life in the later years will also be sad and lost.
When we have a pure hobby in our hearts, not for fame and fortune, not for gain, but just enjoy simple pleasure in the hobby.
As a result, you will find that in this happiness, you will make your life more real and simple, and there is no anxiety of the past. This simple happiness is like a trickle in a stream, nourishing your heart every day and letting you have a calm and good attitude.
This good attitude will also bring you spiritual "immunity", so that you know how to look at it dialectically when you encounter setbacks, and you will not simply embarrass yourself or blame others.
To be honest, the older a person is, the biggest difference between people is whether they have a good attitude, and having a simple, pure hobby is very important.
2 Don't ask for anything to be rewarded, be aware of your limitations
After fifty years, children have gradually grown up and have their own lives and worlds. However, there are too many people who still like to point fingers at children's bits and pieces, and once they are different from their own expectations, they feel that they have encountered setbacks in life, and loss, sadness, and depression have followed, and the more so, the more they let themselves live more and more failures.
As the saying goes, "Children and grandchildren have their own children and grandchildren." ”
In the face of children's "disobedience", there is no need to think that they are "white-eyed wolves" or "wings hardened", but to understand their own limitations. That is, from the perspective of parents, we can only accompany our children on a journey after all, and they will have their own life path after all, rather than copying their life patterns according to the requirements of their parents.
Don't forget, we think that "useful" life views and opinions can only be used as a reference for their life path, they want to live their own lives, they must go on their own, they must experience their own wind and rain before they know where to go.
Therefore, after fifty years, people should have a "useless" mentality to look at children's life choices, do not ask about everything or must listen to their own arrangements, so that in addition to making themselves more and more tired, but also make each other's relationship more and more tense.
3 Do not use a utilitarian mentality to seek returns immediately, but develop good habits in life
After people have passed fifty, the best kind treatment for themselves is to have less utilitarian return concepts, but to let themselves develop some good habits, take it slowly, and do not worry.
For example, develop a good habit of loving exercise.
Some people think about exercising when they are older and when they encounter physical discomfort. However, once he was well, he left the exercise behind and began to eat and drink again, without any regard for the safety of his body.
In fact, this is the typical "useful" mentality of the body, ignoring the long-term benefits of "useless" healthy habits. Even if you are only active for a few minutes a day, it seems that you have not gained anything at the moment, but as the exercise time becomes longer and longer, the physical fitness of the whole person will get better and better.
Don't forget, a person's good physique is not something that is acquired twice a day, but is bought through good habits day after day, year after year.
When a person has a good habit of loving exercise, he will slowly develop a cheerful and optimistic attitude, and have a deeper understanding of the perception of giving up and getting, letting go and having, and it is really worth understanding what he wants.
In fact, after people have passed fifty, you can cultivate yourself a number of good habits in life, such as in order to make your relationship with your lover more stable, you can try to say some words of praise to each other every day, it seems that some time effect is not good, but if you can become a habit, you will find each other's advantages every time, so that two people get along more harmoniously.
As long as there are habits that can make us better, they are worth having.
When we gradually bid farewell to youth, farewell to the past, and open another new stage of life, it does not mean that we have slowly aged, but hope that we will change our mentality to treat ourselves well, only in this way can we be worthy of the ups and downs of this road, and can we have a happy home in our old age.
In fact, seemingly useless is actually of great use, the beginning of our life to live thoroughly and understandably.
You tell me?
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