How can children learn happily in online classes? The following mentality and strategies, please put away parents

Wen | condensed mother's understanding

Usually, the circle of friends and group chats that sunbathe children play and show talents, the painting style has suddenly changed, there is no idyllic leisure in the past, and it is replaced by the helplessness and troubles of children's homes.

There is a classic painting that just dropped the beast into the school at the end of February, thinking that everything was fine. Unfortunately, within a month, the school was put back.

There is a very vivid word, "the epidemic is crazy", the children are at home, and the old mother is mad.

A friend is very typical, see a friend sent three or four messages a day in a row to complain about the child, both to accompany the second online class, but also to supervise the boss, to complete various tasks but also to do a good job of nutrition collocation, two children have contradictions but also mediate in the middle, in such a state, can not delay the work at hand. One day the head boomed, too much trouble.

Seeing this, do you feel empathy?

Reality catches us off guard, but life goes on, and if we are always immersed in negative emotions, not only will it not help, but the family will be chickens and dogs, and there will be serious sequelae.

Having experienced 2020, I believe that I will understand that parents are anxious, children have poor learning effects, and family relationships are facing serious tests, which require a lot of time and energy to heal.

People can not fall in the same place twice, this time to remember the lessons of the last time, adjust the mentality and strategy, let the children learn happily, and maintain a good parent-child relationship.

Change your mindset and don't treat your children at home as a burden

Consider the problem from another perspective, the child is not at home is not a good thing, when you calmly accept the fact that the child is at home, you will not be too annoyed and anxious, and it is more pleasant to see the child.

Some parents are very happy to see their children learning at home. Because the child took a delayed course some time ago, the time spent in school was too long, there was a lot less free time, and the child was too hard. This time learning at home can actually let the child take a breath and rest.

From the perspective of my family's situation, I think about it this way, to see if everyone feels the same way.

Increased sleep time: My son went to high school, usually got up at 6 a.m. to go to school, went home at 10 p.m., and slept until after 11 o'clock, sleeping for less than 7 hours. Now at home, get up at 6:20 a.m. and sleep for 20 minutes more. More balanced nutrition: Because of the rush to school, the son often does not eat breakfast in the morning. At school, he chose meals, and he ate mostly meat and rarely ate meals. At home, I can eat breakfast on time, and I can also match meat and vegetables, and finally I can eat more vegetables. It is easier to get closer to the family relationship: school time is tight, there is little time to get along, and the younger brother basically does not meet, and now there is time to get along every day, which is also an opportunity to cultivate feelings. More free time: the school management is strict, extracurricular interest time is limited, now after class, after writing homework, time is your own, you can arrange more interesting things.

After listing a few benefits, I found that the child still had so many beautiful things at home, naturally got some joy and pleasure, adjusted mentality, and was very motivated to do anything.

Be willing to let go and let the child be responsible for himself

Children at home online classes, the most worried is that the learning effect is not good, we are particularly uneasy, always want to intervene. Have you ever had such a situation?

Afraid that the child will doze off, do unrelated things, and be half-hearted when taking online lessons, and then can't help but push the door in to see the child's class.

When I saw the teacher asking for homework, I began to worry about when my child would be able to finish the homework. Especially when many children have turned in their homework, their children are even more anxious when they have not submitted the homework list, and they can't help but urge their children to turn in their homework quickly. If it is found that the child has not turned in the homework has become a fact, or the child's homework is not excellent, do not ask the question, first nagging, criticizing and then talking.

Distrusting children, urging, nagging children, there is no benefit, it will only make children resist, but lose interest in learning, learn more less seriously, write homework slower, and the quality is worse.

I have a deep understanding of this, when my son was in the second year of junior high school, he lost his enthusiasm for learning because of online classes, and his interpersonal relationships were also very tense.

Most of the children like to learn, but also have self-esteem and responsibility, we less meddle in his learning, he has a sense of autonomy and value, more initiative.

The best way to do this is to "manage less", make three chapters with the child, and distinguish responsibilities.

Here's what I did: I told my son that I was only responsible for alerting him when he couldn't get up. Take the lessons and hand in the homework completely by yourself, and take responsibility for yourself. I have set the nails to be undisturbed, and occasionally I go to see them, and I am not bothered by the eyes. When I eat or sleep, I will not call him or urge him. As a result, most of the sons woke up on their own and did not have to wake up. Classes were very punctual, homework was turned in on time, and meals and sleeps were strictly in accordance with the class schedule. Once, he did not enter the conference room in time for a network problem, and deliberately explained the reason to the teacher, which showed that he took this matter seriously and learned to take responsibility for himself.

In doing so, my mentality is very relaxed and relaxed, and the child can easily go to school without additional pressure except for the pressure from the teacher.

Let your child relax and don't just care about learning

Although it is home learning, learning is not all, and we must pay attention to the combination of work and leisure. If staying at home is just learning, the child must be driven crazy, and must have the opportunity to rest and relax.

Past experience shows that the learning tasks of online classes may be more than usual, children learn very hard, and we must be more considerate of children's hardships.

Many adults work 996 hours, especially want more rest. Many children have 696 study hours, aren't they more tired and need more rest!

The school also arranges exercise time, to encourage and drive children to do it together, after learning, to get a moment of relaxation, is also one of the ways to ensure the body's immunity.

In addition to exercise time, the time that children use their own learning efficiency to buy is also given to the child, so that he can freely arrange extracurricular activities that he likes.

I rarely communicate with my children about learning issues now, and the most common thing I say is "Come, play with my brother for a while." "When my son was in recess, he quickly looked for his younger brother and played high, which was a sport."

If we emphasize the frequency of relaxation with our children more than the frequency of learning, the child's mood will be more beautiful and grateful.

Make three meals a day, nourish the stomach can also cultivate a good attitude

One thing that parents feel particularly hard when their children are at home is to make three meals a day for their children.

Offline learning, many children will eat at school, parents cooking pressure is not much. Online learning, three meals a day can only rely on parents.

Although it is a little hard, it is a good parent-child opportunity.

Adjust your child's nutrition to ensure balanced nutrition and make your child healthier. Cook delicious meals for your children, meet the most basic psychological needs, and eat well.

Thinking about this layer, cooking will also become a kind of enjoyment, and perhaps the cooking skills will increase greatly.

Can't cook and don't be afraid, before cooking, use a powerful network search, you will know how to make a good meal with good color and flavor.

Before each meal, plan in advance what to do, how to match, simply prepare the ingredients, find a cooking method, it is actually very simple to do.

Adjust the cooking time to match the child's work and rest time, form a habit, and no longer a burden.

I am now cooking at 6 o'clock, 11 o'clock, 5 o'clock, meat, eggs, dishes are well matched, and the children are very satisfied. Every time I see an empty bowl or plate on the table, I am also full of a sense of accomplishment.

epilogue

Children's home learning is currently the safest way, we adjust our mentality, do not take this matter as a burden, take some necessary measures, and get along with the child, the child will be happy to learn, physical and mental health.

I'm @Gelma Goku

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